Tamar Braxton‘s breakup from ex-boyfriend David Adefeso keeps getting messier and messier.
The 43-year-old singer and Adefeso called it quits following abuse allegations on both sides, just months after the “Get Ya Life” star’s purported suicide attempt. The Braxton sisters have been public about their feelings toward Adefeso since news of his and Tamar’s abuse and legal troubles hit the public.
Following a day of his social media dragging at the hands of her sisters Toni and Towanda Braxton, Tamar spoke out Tuesday, Oct. 13, in two videos posted to social media about the breakup to make it clear that what they had “wasn’t a terrible relationship.”
“Today is a lot and I just wanted to come on here and just clear some things up. I really honestly appreciate my family, you know, all of a sudden speaking up for me,” she snidely began. “I do appreciate that. And it’s expected when you’re going through a breakup for families to choose a side and have things to say. It’s never positive and I know nobody agrees with what David said on his Live. I don’t agree with what he said, but I do feel compelled to say that it wasn’t a terrible relationship.”
The “Live” in reference wasn’t specified by Braxton, but it’s possible that she’s referring to Adefeso’s Sept. 9 Instagram Live in which he detailed his side of the domestic abuse allegations.
Tamar went on to give kudos to David for being “an amazing partner” and “an amazing stepdad” to her 7-year-old son Logan, before reminding her fans that he remained her rock after her suicide attempt “when most people were not.”
“David was an amazing partner to me. He was an amazing stepdad to Logan. He wasn’t a clout chaser, he wasn’t trying to be on TV. He did everything on TV and showed up for me because I asked him to. And I don’t feel like the majority of the things that are being said is warranted because what I went through this summer was very traumatic. For both of us,” she explained. “And he was there for me every step of the way even when most people were not. The people that I thought was going to show up did not show up. He showed up, and that’s why I feel so compelled to say something now.”
The “Love and War” singer made it clear that her message wasn’t an attempt to get back together with her ex, and in fact they haven’t communicated since Aug. 30, according to her, but instead to “do the right thing” in “a situation where nobody wins.”
“As much as I understand everybody dragging him through the mud and saying what they need to say because of what he said on his Live, the other part is still present too,” she said.
“This is not me trying to get back with David, or we working things out, because we’re not. I haven’t talked to him or seen him since August 30th. Just me on my journey, I just really want to do the right thing,” she said in her message. “I’m sorry if I look ridiculous trying to do the right thing, and I just wanted to say that. Unfortunately, this is a situation where nobody wins. We’re in a legal dispute and things are blown out of proportion, and I just feel really bad for everybody, including myself. I would really just like to heal privately and be able to tell my story when I feel the need to tell my story.”
Tamar’s statement comes in response to the cryptic message that Toni Braxton directed at David on her Instagram. “David, You weasel…you ferret…You are beyond contempt. Once again, DO NOT include my children in your shenanigans. Please leave my family ALONE!” she wrote, referring to her sons, Denim, 18, and Diezel, 17.
The reason for the message was unknown at the time that she posted, and Towanda Braxton later chimed in on the situation and did little to clarify the matter via an Instagram Live video with her fiancé, music producer Sean Hall.
“Toni is OK. She’s just really pissed off at David, as we all are. We don’t appreciate or condone the way that he’s handling the situation,” Towanda said. “It’s even deeper than you guys can even imagine. … For Toni to even say something and to post it on social media, because you know she neeever does anything like that, you know he’s gone way too far. Like she said, you don’t involve the children. … David went over the line when it comes to that.”
According to The Shade Room, the reason behind Toni and Towanda’s messages could be “because police showed up at Toni’s home where she lives with her children to question and serve Tamar Braxton in an ongoing domestic violence investigation involving David.”