Tamar Braxton is aware of the criticism she has received as of late, and in a candid new Instagram post, she’s laying herself bare. The singer filed for divorce from Vince Herbert in October, and now she’s shedding some light on what went wrong.
“I don’t … well, didn’t, like me either,” Braxton said on Instagram Wednesday, Nov. 8 of how she’s changed amid her marriage woes. “I told myself I would do whatever it took to keep my family together, to see a smile on someone who has seen us smile … hoping we could offer them [the] hope, faith, love and dignity that I once possessed. But the truth is all of those things are NOT within the marriage of Tamar and Vince … at least not anymore.”
“Sometimes we stay ‘married’ for face value or to say ‘we did it’ but the truth is..it couldn’t be more broken and further apart than we are NOW!..even on an anniversary!” she continued, acknowledging the former couple’s ninth wedding anniversary on November 26. “I decided I didn’t want to be married for the sake of saying so. I wanted to have a relationship. Someone to share my/our dreams, our successes, our failures, our past, present and future with..and not finding out s— online.”
Thank God this is HIS purpose..yes I just dropped #bluebirdofhappiness &Tamar &Vince is coming back on Thursday but on GOD this has NOTHING to do with ME or a JOB!!.here is the thing,& MY truth..you don’t have to like me & while I’m woke,I can see that most of you don’t now..even when you did.🤔something has changed w/her..but it’s ok, because I don’t..well,didn’t like me either.I told myself I would do whatever it took to keep my family together,to see a smile on someone who has seen us smile on their face hoping we could offer them hope,faith,Love& dignity that I️ once possessed. But the truth is all of those things are NOT within the marriage of Tamar & Vince🤦🏽♀️ ..at least not anymore.married people who are reading will know what I mean.Sometimes we stay”married”for face value or to say”we did it”🙌🏾but the truth is..it couldn’t be more broken &further apart than we are NOW!..even on an anniversary! You can say he did this,she did that,I️ put up with”this”& I’ve suffered & endured”this”for so long..but the TRUTH is that this was your choice2 stay🙇🏽♀️we get so caught up in WE are”winning”in love that we are LOSING a battle that doesn’t have ANYTHING 2 do with us! I️ decided I didn’t want to be married for the sake of saying so.I wanted to have a relationship.Someone to share my/our dreams,our successes, our failures,our past,present & future with..& not finding out shit online🤦🏽♀️..some of us 🙋🏽have been living a LIE!..& sometimes when things R shared,what’s NOT being surfaced is that he has one or several girlfriends,or she’s never home,or he’s very general when he speaks,or “this doesn’t sound like him”🤔 or he’s so busy lately!!.etc.etc..u have to think to yourself?When is enough enough? Is it ok that he checks up on u when his phone(s) R stuck to him like glue?Is it ok that his friends are HIS friends but my friends are “our” friends? Or, we fight but that’s “passion”❌ let’s get deep for a second..we can argue & u can tell me to gtf out of “your”house when I’m the house of cards?None of this is ok..& while I’m not pushing anyone out of the door..I’m just telling you what has pushed me out of mine!That LAST time was the LAST time🙏🏽
Braxton concluded by indicating the public didn’t know about their spats or how she was never home.
Tamar and Vince In Happier Times
“While I’m not pushing anyone out of the door,” she said. “I’m just telling you what has pushed me out of mine!That LAST time was the LAST time.”
The couple had been struggling in the last year, with reports saying that there was a domestic disturbance in their home. Most recently, the couple put their California home up for sale. It followed a September court order that music mogul Herbert had been ordered to pay Sony $3.7 million.
But at the Soul Train Awards Sunday, Nov. 5, Braxton looked in good spirits — sans wedding ring — as she graced the red carpet ahead of her performance.