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I’m in a new relationship and couldn’t be happier with my new guy! We met on a dating app, and it has been a whirlwind romance thus far. We have a lot in common and want a lot of the same things for our future. But one major red flag is giving me pause.
He surprised me with a trip to D.C. for our three-month anniversary. We took tons of pictures from our dinner dates to museum visits. I’m eagerly posting my photos intraday and even more when we get back to our hotel. He mostly accommodates me to take photos all the time (I believe in preserving memories), but then I noticed he didn’t post any of our photos together! Only a couple of shots from our visit to the museum.
I honestly didn’t want to come off as too needy for attention, so I politely asked him about this, and he stated that he makes it a point not to put his business out there for the world to see.
I tried my best not to take it personally, but it makes me feel like he’s hiding me. I mean, why wouldn’t he want to broadcast me the way I want to broadcast him? I can admit that I have Insta-stalked his friends. I know all their pages, and I see how they freely share photos of their girlfriends. It’s just weird, and I don’t like the way it makes me feel.
A couple of months later, I am realizing that he is making one excuse after another for why I haven’t met one friend or family member of his, and there was still no photo of us on his social. He’s met several of my friends and happened to be over when my mom stopped by, so he’s even met her.
Recently, he received an invite to a fight party, and I was over the moon because it was the perfect opportunity for him to subtly announce to friends and family that we’re an item. Then he tells me that he’s not taking me because it’s more or less a ‘guy thing.’
Lo and behold, I see pictures on his friends’ IG with their significant other and other female friends. He assures me that he didn’t know there were going to be any women there and tells me that he adores me and is overjoyed to have me in his life.
He’s not had a lot of long-term relationships in the past. I don’t want to make assumptions about his motives or whether he’s cheating.
But the bottom line is my guy has failed to introduce me to family and friends, and we’re closing in on the half-year mark in our relationship.
Should I give up on the dream future we’ve talked so much about or should I confront him directly and demand that he introduces me to his people?
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