‘The Real’ Co-Hosts Loni Love Reveals Why She ‘Can’t Afford Children’ and Not Wanting to Get Married

The Real” co-star Loni Love is joining the growing group of Hollywood women that are proving you don’t need to be married with children to feel whole. 

During a recent appearance on Yahoo Life’s “Unapologetically” series, where individuals discuss how they live their lives to the fullest, the seasoned comedian shared her journey and offered some advice to listeners on a romantic quest.

BEVERLY HILLS, CALIFORNIA – MARCH 24: Loni Love attends the ESSENCE 15th Anniversary Black Women in Hollywood Awards highlighting “The Black Cinematic Universe” at Beverly Wilshire, A Four Seasons Hotel on March 24, 2022 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Rodin Eckenroth/Getty Images)

Love emphasized the power of being patient, noting that she didn’t find her romantic partner until after she spent her 30s figuring out who she was as a person and establishing her Hollywood career. She admitted that marriage wasn’t a priority on her list. 

“We live in more modern times now, where women can be a lot more independent, and they can still have the love they want,” she explained. “I always looked at marriage as if you have children, you should definitely be married. When it comes to my friends who are having children, no — it’s too hard. Don’t be calling me. Call your husband.”

She continued, “Back in the day, there was a term called ‘old maid.’ That used to be shunned. Those days are gone,” she says. “Now, women are making their own money, they’re taking control of their lives, and they’re also doing it with love.”

Love also highlighted acting couple Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, who’ve been together since 1983. “They’ve been together for a thousand years. They’re together. They’re a couple; there’s nothing different from them other than the fact that they’re not a married couple,” she added.

As for someday having children of her own, the actress stated that those ambitions had been fulfilled thanks to her boyfriend’s grandchildren and several children in her own family. 

“We take them out. We have a good time,” she said. “Then I have nieces and nephews, and when school comes around, they give me a list. I can’t afford children — I got too many nieces and nephews,” the star quipped.

The Daytime Emmy award-winning co-host offered sage advice to listeners, stating, “If you’re looking for love, look for it everywhere.” Love, who met her current boyfriend of four years, James Welsh, on the popular dating app Christian Mingle, pressed that she strategically looked for a partner. 

“I took my time,” the 50-year-old explained. “I had certain steps where I would just talk to the person. Then I would start texting. Then I would listen to their voice. Then we would meet up. So, my process took six weeks before I even met the person — because if his voice sounds crazy, I’m hanging up.” 

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