‘Please Stop’: Loni Love Blames Black Men Cheating on Slavery and the Internet Crucifies Her

Loni Love received plenty of backlash when she said that black men don’t know how to carry on monogamous relationships. The comedian shared that opinion on Wednesday’s episode of “The Real” after Kevin Hart‘s cheating scandal was brought up.

In 2017, it was revealed that Hart had a tryst with a woman named Montia Sabbag in a Las Vegas hotel room, and he and his wife Eniko Parrish discuss it in the Netflix docuseries “Kevin Hart: Don’t F–k This Up.”

Then earlier this week, on “The Joe Budden Podcast,” Joe Budden said he understands why Hart cheated and it has to do with his busy work schedule.

“He works really hard,” said Budden. “Like, I can see how n—s cheat. In thinking about how hard he works. Sometimes you’re not home but for 10 seconds in the day, for however many days, and I as a man can understand how that can be difficult. I know how I was feeling just going to work however many hours. I was going to work and spending very little time at home.”

But Love said a busy work schedule has nothing to do with why men cheat, and she honed in on black men, who she said can’t be faithful because of slavery.

“I don’t speak for the Black community,” Love began. “But I do think that a lot of black men, they really don’t know how to have true faithful relationships. They think because they have money, because they have power, that they can treat women any kind of way. And that is something we need to work on.”

Love’s co-host Adrienne Houghton then said that some rich, powerful men have been known to mistreat women across cultures, but Love said that’s not the case.

“No it’s not across the board,” she stated. “What is happening is we are still dealing with the point of slavery and we are descendants of slavery and because our families were broken up, we still do not have an idea of how to have families, because our families were broken up.”

To say Love got skewered on social media for her opinion would be an understatement, because many let her have it.

“Im VERY disappointed in her and I am utterly shocked that she would narrow this down to just black men and then try to throw slavery on to justify what she said!” someone wrote on Instagram. “I’m floored that she said this on tv! I don’t like her 😟.”

“’I dnt speak for the black community’… moments later….. speaking for the black community,” another person stated.

“Women need to take responsibility for their bad decisions in picking men,” a third person chimed in. “Stop shifting the blame when YOU made bad decisions, when YOU didn’t pay attention to the warning signs, when YOU were just driven by money so you ignored everything else about him. Take responsibility for your actions.”

“Can we please stop talking down on our black men,” another person asked. “I’m tired of it. How often do you hear other races speaking ill of their men? Please stop. It’s so divisive.”


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