‘I’d Rather Be Alone…But I Can’t’: Keyshia Cole Struggles to Cope with Mom’s Death Amid Other Family Responsibilities

Less than two weeks after her mother, Frankie Lons, passed, Keyshia Cole is getting candid about why she’s having a difficult time grieving. Since the singer’s mother overdosed on drugs on July 18 while celebrating her 61st birthday, Cole has been distancing herself from social media a bit and only coming back to post and talk about her mom.

On Monday, June 26, in a now-deleted post on her Instagram Story, Cole explained that she’s been struggling to grieve because she still has to care for her two sons, Daniel Gibson Jr., 11, and Tobias Khale, 2. She wrote about all the things she currently has on her plate.

“The fact that DJ gave me his cold, SMH!” Cole began. “And I have to care for my youngest! Dealing with mom passing! Plan Tobias Bday! He’s turning 2 Aug 1st! I just can’t 🤦🏽‍♀️ But I will!!”

(From left) Tobias Khale, Keyshia Cole, Frankie Lons, and Daniel Gibson Jr. (Photo: @keyshiacole/Instagram)

Cole continued explaining that her fans’ direct messages, her sons, and her family members have been keeping her occupied. “Not gonna lie tho,” the “Heaven Sent” singer said. “The hundreds of thousands of DM’s I’m receiving!!! And my youngest @tobiaskhale keeping me busy and @daniel_gibsonjr keeping me on him everyday!!! And my endless family and friend coming by even tho they f–king noooooo I’d rather be alone 🤦🏽‍♀️ Like they literally don’t care! And they know I hate people popping up and keep doing it anyway 🤦🏽‍♀️.”

Keyshia Cole vents about struggling to grieve after losing her mother (Photo: @keyshiacole/Instagram)

The 39-year-old admitted that at the moment the only thing she desires is to be alone so she can properly have time to grieve. She said, “I wish I could just lay here alone and just feel bad. But I can’t.” Cole added, “My point was being strong in moments we have to.”

Keyshia Cole continues her posts about dealing with her mother’s death. (Photo: @keyshiacole/Instagram)

Cole received a lot of support from fans and other celebrities not only because they were being sympathetic but also because a lot of people had the opportunity to watch Cole’s mother on her first BET show “Keyshia Cole: The Way It Is.” Her battles with her decades-long drug addiction were discussed on the show numerous times, and she eventually became such a fan favorite that Lons and her other daughter Neffeteria Pugh got their own spin-off show “Frankie and Neffe.”

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