Erica Campbell was the topic of divisive conversation on Monday, Nov. 16, when she appeared to establish a marriage commandment of her own on social media.
The gospel singer took to Instagram with a post of a meme that raised provocative questions about infidelity and marriage.
“You can’t sow Hoe seeds and reap marriage benefits. Your brain and body don’t switch like that. You gotta prepare you mind for marriage because it’s ministry.”
The message was received with mixed reactions, fostering much debate over what Campbell said and to whom exactly she was referring.
In light of all of the interest her comments received, Campbell made an appearance on “The Morning Hustle” to shed light on the intention behind what she shared.
“I said you can’t sow hoe seed and think you’re going to reap marriage benefits. And what I meant by that is monogamy must be practiced,” she explained. “It’s not something that happens automatically. If you’re in the practice of sleeping around, doing whatever — and I’m coming from a believer’s perspective because that’s what I am.”
She continued, “I know there’s a benefit in being with one person. That was God’s design for our life. I know that a lot of people, dealing with broken hearts, they’ll say, ‘Fine, I don’t care. I’ma do what I want.’ And you can. But the benefits of marriage are beautiful, beautiful, beautiful.”
Campbell proceeded to note that in Biblical scripture it says “flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin that a person commits, you commit outside the body. But sex is internal. It’s bringing someone into your temple. And I don’t think you should be random with it.”
She added that marriage requires you to “train your brain. You have to be around people who believe in marriage, who uplift marriage,” she said. “And you have to bring God in it. Because before God made a church, he made a man and a woman. If there’s anything better than sex, he left it in heaven. Of course the enemy wants to manipulate to destroy families and people with it. So if you look at it from a God perspective that’s where I was coming from. I wasn’t beating up on nobody. I promise y’all. I don’t do that.”
Campbell also addressed her personal belief in abstaining from sex until marriage, conceding that while not everyone feels that way, she felt it was necessitated by her faith as a believer.
“God can create that in your heart, that clean heart where you want to share with just one person and it’s so beautiful. It’s not boring, it’s not lame,” she said. “It’s actually quite explosive because you get to explore and just enjoy this one person who is committed to you forever, without comparing yourself to who’ve they been with before and ‘I’ma be better than him.’ ‘I’ma be better than her.’ That’s too much work. I want to love one man and let that one man love me internally, externally, everything about me.
One central question surrounding the comments is concerning who were they directed to — men or women? Campbell said she wasn’t being specific.
“I know some guys who’ve gotten married and the night before they get married, they’re texting all the other girls, ‘I’m getting married tomorrow.’ That’s a little late to be telling her,” she noted. “That should have happened a long time ago. You have to get your mind, your heart and your sprit ready to just be with one person because it does take work.”