Some comments Fantasia made on “The Breakfast Club” this week concerning relationships sparked quite the online conversation afterward, and they’re something the singer, as well as her husband Kendall Taylor, addressed in a video.
Fantasia stopped by the New York-based radio show to promote her new album “Sketchbook,” but what she said about submitting to Taylor seemed to get far more attention.
“Most women are trying to be the leader. That’s why you can’t find a man,” she explained. “You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way.”
“That’s why we bump heads,” she added. “I feel like it’s a generational thing … You have to find how to submit. You can still be a queen. The queen plays a part. The king needs his queen. There’s certain things that he can’t see that we see.”
Many called the R&B singer’s advice outdated and flat-out wrong. A lot of people also had a huge problem with the idea of a woman submitting to her man.
So both Fantasia and Taylor took to Instagram and decided to further explain that position, and Taylor said people are confusing the word submitting with dictatorship.
“Submission is supposed to be a beautiful song and dance between two lovers,” he stated. “What’s happened is, men have abused that gift … I submit daily to the most high. I stay in my scriptures, I continue to feed myself with things that help me build my character to reshape my perspective that was messed up in the streets … so I can come to my wife from a pure position.”
“So when I do that, and she sees me and witnesses over time that its an authentic demonstration, her heart is moved and softened and compelled to submit to me,” he added.
Taylor then said that Fantasia submitting to him doesn’t mean that he makes every household decision. Instead, they talk things out, and after he considers her opinion, he decides what’s best for the family. “I consider everything that’s on her heart,” he explained.
Fantasia weighed in as well.
“I think when women hear the word “submission,” where like ‘What? Submitting?'” she explained. “To piggyback off of what my husband said, it was what he demonstrated.”
As probably expected, there were some who agreed with the couple and said they’re doing things correctly, while others said they still had a problem with the word submission.
“Submission means to subdue, I don’t see my relationships as a place for me to subdue any part of me,” one woman wrote. “When I enter relationships I enter with expectation of you as you are. When I look at you I should see my team mate and my partner not my captain.”
“Seems like some of yall aren’t mature enough to receive this message,” another person weighed in. “Submission to the right man isn’t demeaning, it protects you & gives the relationship firm ground to stand on.”