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Steve Harvey Says Dating Book ‘Think Like a Man’ Was Prompted by Bad Conversation with Daughter’s Ex

Comedian Steve Harvey cemented himself as a relationship guru after the release of his 2011 bestseller “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” The comic surprised fans of his talk show in a flashback clip this week where he revealed the inspiration behind the hit book.

During the show, Harvey, 62, recalled a conversation he had with a man his daughter, Brandy, was dating at the time.

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Steve Harvey said he was perturbed when his daughter’s boyfriend at the time couldn’t explain what his intentions were. (Image courtesy of Steve Harvey Show)

“He’d been over to the house about four times now,” he explained. “And so my father-in-law, who’s in his 80’s asked, ‘young man, what’s your plans for my granddaughter?’ And [the boyfriend] said, ‘Oh, I don’t have any plans.'”

Harvey, who was in on the conversation at the time, said he was perturbed by the young man’s answer and pressed him further about his intentions with his daughter.

“Every man has a plan for a woman,” he explained. “The moment we walk up to [a woman] and introduce ourselves, we have a plan. So let’s cut this bulls–t out, because you’ve been over here four times. And my daughter likes you a lot. So tell me what your plan is for my daughter.”

The boyfriend ultimately revealed he had no plans because he and Harvey’s daughter were “just kicking it.” That’s when the comic said he called his daughter down so the young man could deliver the tough news — to her face. Harvey recalled how devastated she was.

“My daughter’s face just cracked,” he said. “She was so hurt, and she got up from the table and walked away.”

In consoling his daughter, the “Family Feud” host explained the importance of knowing a man’s intentions upfront, rather than having your time wasted. Harvey said his daughter was taken aback by his wisdom on the matter and encouraged him to write a book to help other women, just as he had helped her.

“So that’s how I wrote the book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.”

Watch more in the video below.

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