The 29-year-old author recently spoke with HelloGiggles and explained that putting her marriage first isn’t selfish, it’s necessary for a healthy household. Ayesha said they received the advice from both of their parents, who are still married and have been for 30-plus years.
“We put each other first, even before the kids, as tough as that sounds,” she stated. “Putting ourselves first and making sure that we make time for date nights and for each other, that’s been very important … Because when you become a parent, you want to put your kids first and we do, but we do it second to our relationship.”
“Because ultimately, when our relationship is good, the kids are happy and they’re thriving and our family life is good,” Ayesha continued. “We have to put that into perspective and realize that it’s not us being selfish, it’s making sure we set a strong foundation.”
After the interview was published, an internet discussion broke out and many agreed with the Curry’s approach. The overriding opinion was that parents are the family’s base, and if the foundation gets cracked everything else will tumble.
“Should be standard practice and advice given by any marriage counselor or relationship expert,” one person commented. “The foundation of the family is the two of you. The success of the relationship carries over to the children. If you put your children first you are now putting the cart before the horse. You are then forgetting how this all started.”
“I always told my kids their dad came first,” wrote a woman. “I said long after you are grown and gone your dad and I will still be together. Guess what? 34 years later and I am still right.”
But there were some who thought to put marriage before children was crazy, and they just wouldn’t do it.
“Nothing goes before my kids and that is not why her marriage [is] working,” one person shared. “It’s working because you love and respect one another.”