Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s Bennifer days epitomized what is wrong with celebrity culture. The duo were hounded day and night and it didn’t help much that J.Lo loved every minute of it. It was a relationship doomed to fail from the constant media coverage to the failed combined projects including Gigli and music videos. Yet the duo were engaged to be married with the paps salivating at the mouth. As destiny would have it, Ben and Jennifer were no more.
J.Lo would marry Marc Anthony, have two babies and divorce seven years later. Ben would marry Jennifer Garner (he has a thing for Jennifers it seems), stay married and have three children.
Both entertainers have regained favor in the public’s eye and possibly with each other. In a cover story with The Hollywood Reporter to promote his latest film “Argo” Ben admits he keeps in touch with J.Lo from time to time.
“We don’t have the kind of relationship where she relies on me for advice,” he says, “but we do have the kind of relationship where there’ll be an e-mail saying, ‘Oh, your movie looks great.’ I remember when she got ‘American Idol.’ I said: ‘This was really smart. Good luck.’ I touch base. I respect her. I like her. She’s put up with some stuff that was unfair in her life, and I’m really pleased to see her successful.”
Sounds safe enough right? Readers weren’t too pleased with the admission. Many believed Ben is treading on thin ice and could break his wife Garner’s heart. According to AskMen however there are acceptable and unacceptable ways to maintain contact with your ex.
It’s the age of technology. No more etching messages into stone — we have texts and e-mail. This allows for perfectly impersonal contact with people you’re not going to see or talk to every day, i.e., your ex-girlfriend. Despite what your current girlfriend might say, emailing an ex once in a while is totally acceptable, as is the occasional chat on AIM. As far as subject matters go, brief chats about the current state of your lives and other trivial, current events-oriented matters are totally reasonable.
It’s safe to say that if you find yourself chatting your ex up for hours, multiple times a week, you’re heading straight into the danger zone. Furthermore, if the discussions start to veer off into advice/criticisms about your current relationship, danger Will Robinson! Get your emotional counseling from Dr. Phil, not your ex. We hope it goes without saying that reminiscing about that special night the two of you shared in the hot tub in Cabo is off-limits too. Keep it G-rated, guys.
So if you ask the guys at AskMen, Jennifer Garner has nothing to worry about. AskWomen may have a different take…:-)