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Steve Harvey’s Movie: Should A Woman Think Like A Man?

Since your first high school date, guidance has been spewed incessantly about responding to the opposite sex. Who knew dating life would spawn into a dragnet of advice? Steve Harvey’s book-turned-movie, ‘Think Like A Man’ starring Gabrielle Union and others is bringing out strong commentary about the accuracy of Harvey’s counsel provoking further proposed remedies to this dating thing.

The recommendation that a woman should “think like a man” makes no sense at all. Why should a woman be required to respond in a manner that isn’t in accordance to her natural self? This screams a breeding ground for game playing. Why can’t a woman think like a mature woman while pacing herself transparently throughout the process? Additionally, when should she think like a woman?

While I think it would be foolish not to gain an understanding of the man in pursuit, it’s beyond understanding why thinking like him would render home run results. Understanding him and thinking like him are completely different things.

Can’t help but be a bit offended by Steve’s advice. Are women a bunch of docile, inadequate, non-discerning waste of a species when it comes to the thinking process? Can women (as a whole) fine-tune their logic, take better ownership of choices, and self-reflect on previous decisions to avoid repeat preferences? Yes, definitely, but this quest doesn’t involve avoiding the principles of womanhood which undoubtedly calls for our own thinking process.

“The bottom line is that “thinking like a man” has been, unfortunately, a way to fight fire with fire in the on-going battle of the sexes taking place in the black community. Thinking like a man may help you win the war, but love does not emerge out of war. So, for anyone who wishes to build lasting, meaningful relationships with the opposite sex, you may want to consider reading books by trained relationship experts who can help you to overcome your own issues, identify the issues in others and build relationships that last,” according to Dr. Boyce Watkins, a Syracuse University professor.

I find it hilarious all the advice women are given when it comes to relationship woes when two people, both men and women, should be working towards a common goal—getting together, stay together. We must understand when celebrities make such bold, insidious claims; the framework is usually for shock value and money, as in Steve’s case, not necessarily the value of whole relationships.

I think there is a dire need to better the dynamics between men and women. This process starts with a genuine conversation between the two and moving away from the negative stereotypes regarding the opposite gender.

By Deidre White

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4 thoughts on “Steve Harvey’s Movie: Should A Woman Think Like A Man?

  1. ReadingIsMagic says:

    Maybe you should actually, I don’t know, READ THE BOOK? LOL
    I’m not a Steve Harvey fan by any means, but I was passed this book by a girlfriend and when I got over the fact it was written by Steve Harvey, I actually found it a real easy read with a lot of sound advice. A lot of it is common sense that maybe a lot of women just don’t like to accept. He gives us a peek at how men think and why they do what they do, giving up the power to “think like a man”. If you read the book you’d probably be singing another tune, this is just a sloppy article. You don’t like the title and what you assume it means? Lazy reporting. It took me 2 1/2 hours to read the book.

  2. JC says:

    I agree. The article doesn’t give any mention about what the book actually says. It’s more a comment on how women should be allowed to think the way they think; which is really just a spin off on the cover of the book. I don’t think the author actually read the book.

  3. Agree with moving away from the negative stereotypes about the opposite gender but nevertheless there is a bias towards women having to be the complacent, accepting and nurturing individual whilst men want to appear to have it all. They have very firm boundaries and having a realistic conversation is not always possible. Women have to be able to say just like men what they will tolerate and put up with. Wake up men! Women are people too. We are not robots or superheros and good luck to any man who thinks that in this modern age he can continue to justify his selfish behaviour by arguing that women should act like women. We are all just human beings.

  4. Oh yes. And what are the "principles of woemenhood"? Fight fire with fire? Love does not emerge out of war? No. I agree. It does not. It accepts someone as they are. That means women need to be just as strong as men and set their own boundaries too and let men rise to the challenge. This is not war. This is equality.

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