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Jill Scott Starts A Debate On Open Relationships With Chilli

Jill Scott has started a debate on the question of an open relationship. Jill decided to take her thoughts to Twitter in hopes of getting some feed back – she ended up with an intervention from former TLC artist Chilli and actor Brian White.

Jill tweeted in a series of tweets:

What do you think about “open” relationships. Been considering.

Many friends are making it work. Not sure if I’m that girl but not sure if I’m not. Sometimes there’s an understanding that nobody else gets.

I’m certain of what I want and deserve. Still so many marriages fail. Worth the questions. Worth the thought.

I gotta watch it cuz u all get so upset! I value the woman God has made me. I value my health and my child. Relax. I’m good. Really & really

Ok. Try This, the love of your life cheats and is honest about it. Ur life with him/her is everything you want but monogamous. Do you stay?

Ima say this. If YOU can handle it, it’s yours to handle. Other people’s judgment matters not in this one life you have. Life is not black & pink.

Sounds reasonable enough that someone is considering another option if what they’re currently doing isn’t working. Whether or not she decides to get involve in an open relationship – it’s worth the question.

Chilli and Brian White on the other hand didn’t want Jill to even THINK about an open relationship.

Chilli: Hell Naw To Open Relationships!!!

Brian White: Thoughts? RT @TaP_Ent: a woman doesn’t consider an open relationship unless she has been hurt, isn’t getting what she needs or is being spiteful

Chilli– @actorbrainwhite or just trying to please her wack ass boyfriend! Be strong and get the heck outta there! Your life and self respect is depending on it.

Chilli to Jill Scott: I’m about to call you cuz you can’t be in nobody’s OPEN relationships!! Talk about a horrible situation!!! So answer your phone!!

I can only imagine what that conversation was like – allow me to play devils advocate – were they both discussing their failed relationships? Were they discussing the trials of being a single mother? Was Chilli simply telling her “girl you don’t need to share with no one, there’s one out there for you,” without offering a solution to fix her problem? Did they bash Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith who’ve openly discussed open relationships?

It seems logical for a person to at least consider other options and make their decision based on their research. Share your thoughts, what do you think of Jill Scott and Chilli’s debate?

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  1. sophia says:

    For one i dont agree to open relationships because thats just saying it is okay to do as you wish and you will still be misrable. Jill is loking for answers and chilli is standing her ground. Doesnt matter if they talk about being a single parent or bad relationships . they are also women and some women scorn. Do to reasons unknown to the public eye. No one knows what went on behind closed doors except the ones who where behind them.
    In a relationship it should’nt be any open door policies other then trust honesty love respect. Because if anyone is to choose to bring anyone into the relationship should not be with that person just be single. Even tho theres one life we have to live . Live it happy

  2. Veronica Turner says:

    If your going to have a open relationship, why have a relationship just be open.

  3. Crystal says:

    At JS: No one is worth compromising one’s self on any level where there is negative or questionable behavior and/or requests. If its not comfortable, its not good and not good for you. Just like the Bible discusses discernment … we all have the ability to determine at some point whether something is good for us or not. You seem to be a very intelligent and spiritual woman and a very beautiful woman at that! I hope you know your worth … you have so much going on for yourself and so much to offer so many people. As mentioned above, I believe there is someone for everyone. You deserve everything you want in life. Most people are too lazy to put in the work to find and/or too anxious to wait for the right person. I believe once you are truly happy and content with self, and fully know and understand what it is you want/need in a mate and how best another would fit in your life before committing and/or shacking up, the better the results. Love me some you girl! Keep sharing your talent with us … please! Crystal 😉

  4. Diana says:

    Hi Chhili and Jill much respect to both of u love ur music Jill and always got love for the TLC miss the music but understand….Back to open relationships, i am in agreement with Michael Baisden he asked the same question. My answer who of us are not in open relationship. We either are and know it or are and don’t. I think if u are in a relationship and have love for each other but are not satisfied in some way then an open relationship might be your answer problem is can both of you handle that. Usually not and its usually the woman who cant handlle her man in an open relationship. People are in need of so much more than just a relationship these days openness with respect might be the answer.

  5. lakey j says:

    theres nothing good about an open relationship

  6. Mike B says:

    They are both crazy as hell….

  7. Mija says:

    Being a single parent, for many years, is not an excuse to have an open relationship. Respect for oneself is. Love yourself more than anyone else. Respect your body, which is your temple. When you meet your mate he won’t ask or hint to you about an open relationship… he will want you all to himself an visa versa. Love YOU first and love last.
    Keep pumping out your music… It helps to keep me sane.
    Sita love – Mija M.

  8. tanya bonnette says:

    Too eachs own. Everything isn’t for everybody. We have to make decisions .

  9. kenya says:

    I’m sorry but an open relationship is nothing more than friends with benefits. If that is what you want, by all means go for it. But when you try to fool yourself into believing its more than what it is, you will get hurt. As far as the MB show, people need to realize that it is a show, just like tv is tv and can’t survive w/o ratings. It’s his job to be controversial, but I gaurantee he is not allowing some dude in his bed with Big Sexxy and neither is she allowing another women in his. Wake up people! Some cool phrases or a topic by a popular person shouldn’t allow you to compromise your integrity or question what you want for your life….this is NOT high school!!!

  10. Melissa says:

    Jill Scott…..Live your life by the choices YOU make and what feels right for YOU! Yes, please listen to the opinions and arguments of Chili and Brian but none of that matters at the end of the day. My original statements still holds true…YOUR LIFE..YOUR CHOICE. Do what makes you happy? This is YOUR life you are living!

  11. Diamond says:

    You ultimately have to do what pleases you. Ms Jill Scott seems to be a smart and strong woman and she’s one of my favorite artists because of that. U go Jill, do you! There’s no uniform way to live your life as long as you are in accordance with God!

  12. Karen says:

    I agree with Chilli. One should see themselves as worthy of so much more. Never lower your standards and settle. Remove yourself from the equation and work on self. Once you begin to love you, there’s nothing you will stand for outside of what your standards are.

  13. Johnny says:

    Jill, you are a very beautiful and intelligent young woman. Do not degrade yourself with such nonsense. If you are spiritual person that you claim to be, you know deep down in your soul that this is wrong. Open relationship is just permission to sleep with whomever you please. In God’s eyes, at your present staus as a single woman is nothing more than fornication. If you marry and consider an open relationship, it’s adultery. There’s nothing good about open relationships. Get to know you first. Love yourself, Like your song titled “Golden”, try living it. You are worth more than an open relationship. You want a man who is dedicated only to you and vice-versa. Be patient, there is a person qualified for you. Never lower your standards just to be satisfied. Pray to God to send you a man just for you. He will do what you asked, A genuine and loving man will find you. The key is to be patient once he comes. Allow the courtship some time, at least a year or two, before committing to each other. You both will have to know that you are compatible, is he worth being a father to your child, etc… You have a lot to consider, not even going to talk about you being a celebrity. Can he handle that? Is he trying to get with you because of your status? Take your time!!!!!

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  15. Paula Everette says:

    Open marriage only work for men, once they are done playing they can move on to the next women. Women can move on also, but it appears men have a larger pool of partners to chose from. Don’t waste your time you’re better alone, the stress of a open relationship is not worth it.
    Emotionally get ready, there are wonderful men out here don’t give up.

  16. Abike says:

    the only time that a woman (her mental, emotional or economical state included) agrees to an open relationship is when she has been dogged out and she feels as if she has no other choice to but to accept to be with a man that other women can have at any time. Hold on someone just thought “She can’t have him at any time, only when I let him go”….well how did they get close enough to even be in a relationship? YOU CAN’T Control HIM NOR HIS TIME! That being said man or woman if you are willing to be in a “Marriage” that is open you are essentially saying this convenant is subject to changes. So don’t be surprised when he or she asks for a divorce. Some women struggle after struggle accept it. I say; if you are a real woman fully capable of being in control of no one but yourself; demand to be the only “FRUIT” in your man’s life!

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