Jill Scott Starts A Debate On Open Relationships With Chilli

Jill Scott has started a debate on the question of an open relationship. Jill decided to take her thoughts to Twitter in hopes of getting some feed back – she ended up with an intervention from former TLC artist Chilli and actor Brian White.

Jill tweeted in a series of tweets:

What do you think about “open” relationships. Been considering.

Many friends are making it work. Not sure if I’m that girl but not sure if I’m not. Sometimes there’s an understanding that nobody else gets.

I’m certain of what I want and deserve. Still so many marriages fail. Worth the questions. Worth the thought.

I gotta watch it cuz u all get so upset! I value the woman God has made me. I value my health and my child. Relax. I’m good. Really & really

Ok. Try This, the love of your life cheats and is honest about it. Ur life with him/her is everything you want but monogamous. Do you stay?

Ima say this. If YOU can handle it, it’s yours to handle. Other people’s judgment matters not in this one life you have. Life is not black & pink.

Sounds reasonable enough that someone is considering another option if what they’re currently doing isn’t working. Whether or not she decides to get involve in an open relationship – it’s worth the question.

Chilli and Brian White on the other hand didn’t want Jill to even THINK about an open relationship.

Chilli: Hell Naw To Open Relationships!!!

Brian White: Thoughts? RT @TaP_Ent: a woman doesn’t consider an open relationship unless she has been hurt, isn’t getting what she needs or is being spiteful

Chilli– @actorbrainwhite or just trying to please her wack ass boyfriend! Be strong and get the heck outta there! Your life and self respect is depending on it.

Chilli to Jill Scott: I’m about to call you cuz you can’t be in nobody’s OPEN relationships!! Talk about a horrible situation!!! So answer your phone!!

I can only imagine what that conversation was like – allow me to play devils advocate – were they both discussing their failed relationships? Were they discussing the trials of being a single mother? Was Chilli simply telling her “girl you don’t need to share with no one, there’s one out there for you,” without offering a solution to fix her problem? Did they bash Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith who’ve openly discussed open relationships?

It seems logical for a person to at least consider other options and make their decision based on their research. Share your thoughts, what do you think of Jill Scott and Chilli’s debate?

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