Singer Ciara’s message about what women should do to find a husband was meant to inspire but instead it ignited the wrath of Twitter. And now, the “I Bet” singer is clearing the air about what she meant by telling folks to “#LevelUp.
On Saturday, Jan. 20, the former single mom turned wife of Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson tweeted and Instagrammed a 2016 sermon from pastor John Gray who gave advice to singles who hope to get married. Although the full clip saw Gray addressing men, the portion Ciara posted was directed at women.
“Too many women wanna be married but you’re walking in the spirit of a girlfriend,” he said. “When you carry yourself like a wife, a husband will find you. But if you keep walking like a girlfriend, boys will play with you.”
The tweet triggered a storm of responses. And even though she had some support, by Sunday, Jan. 21 Ciara posted a message explaining how her faith led her to find love … with herself.
“I was a single mom sitting at home and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me,” Ciara wrote before concluding, “That’s when I realized married or not, I need to love myself.”
I saw the video Ciara posted and I just laughed. She’s really acting like a woman who never thought she was gonna get married so being a wife is a huge deal and part of her identity now. I’ve seen several women act like that after securing a ‘Mrs.’ title 😂
— Danie The Degenerate (@daniecal) January 21, 2018
“level up”? these types of messages are so toxic to women. your value does not depend on a man wanting you and marriage is not the be all and end all. ciara is basic af for spreading this https://t.co/EQqTBDAIwa
— s. (@sabrinaahmed) January 21, 2018
Y’all mad because Ciara posted this… I ain’t even into church, but dude told no lie.. Don’t get mad, stop being a hoe. pic.twitter.com/fdRHo6xTry
— I grew up in the 90’s….. (@SeanTheTerrible) January 21, 2018