As more and more men have fallen from grace due to sexual assault allegations, Amanda Seales says women need to take it upon themselves to outright expose them. The “Insecure” actress took to social media Friday, Dec. 1 to name Russell Simmons as the man who she had referred to in an earlier video regarding a business meeting.
And although she did not say he sexually assaulted her, she did detail an uncomfortable encounter with the Def Jam Recordings co-founder.
“Um, have we ever f—ed?,” the comedian recalls Simmons asked. “No,” she responds. “Oh, right. Because I would have remembered that, right?'” Seales says Simmons told her during a meeting about “working together.”
The actress said it was “hard” for her to admit.
“And he didn’t even assault me and I didn’t want to say that,” she says. “That’s how the game is f—ed up.”
In the video caption, Seales explained why women have such a hard time coming forward against their accused harassers, like Simmons.
“You wait because, especially when it’s a Black man of prestige, you are conditioned to not speak defamatory truths for fear it will undermine their contributions to the community,” she said in part. “Lastly, you wait, because you don’t even wanna believe it ya damn self. No matter how seemingly benign or intrusive, no one wants to endure this.”
She then called on women to stop playing into the culture of whispering and warning one another about men who sexually harass women.
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“So many of us have so many of these stories and we come to operate like a clandestine anti-creeplifes coalition of alerting others to, Watch out for so and so,'” she said. “Let that be no more. It is not okay. It is not the culture. It is not your fault. Expose them.”
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PSA: For anyone who says, “Why’d they wait so long?” You wait because as a woman raised in a patriarchal, “Bros before Hoes”, sexist, “but what were you wearing” society you understand power dynamics and that even when there are witnesses to any level of sexual harassment/assault it will always be you who is questioned for incurring the offense. You wait because you know your vision is bigger than their indiscretion and refuse to let it derail you from your goals. You wait because you don’t even want to acknowledge the fuckery for longer than you have to when you know the odds are there will be no consequences, you’ll be dismissed, or worse defiled yet again and would rather get on with the positive things in your life. You wait because, especially when it’s a black man of prestige, you are conditioned to not speak defamatory truths for fear it will undermine their contributions to the community. Lastly, you wait, because you don’t even wanna believe it ya damn self. No matter how seemingly benign or intrusive, no one wants to endure this, particularly in professional settings. Yet, so many of us have so many of these stories and we come to operate like a clandestine anti-#creeplifes coalition of alerting others to, “watch out for so and so”. Let that be no more. It is not okay. It is not the culture. It is not your fault. Expose them. #igstorygems
The lengthy remarks led many in Seales’ comments to thank her for being so open.