Desire for the Wedding May Be Greater Than Your Desire to Find Love
One woman who rushed to marry a man she only knew for a few weeks eventually admitted to the Daily Mail that the race to the altar was more so about getting her dream wedding than it was about love. From a young age, women are fed the fantasy of being a “princess,” and wedding ceremonies are the closest things to that fairy tale aspiration. It is important that women do not let their desire to have a wedding distract them from being patient finding love. Shannon Larson, a relationship blogger and self-proclaimed “relationship-building expert,” explained that there is a reason the wedding industry targets women and not men. “Women want a wedding more than men,” she wrote in a blog post from 2011. “The wedding industrial complex is targeted at women and girls.” Later in the post she adds, “From a very young age, girls dream of the day when they will be a beautiful bride, not only because these dresses are truly stupendous but also because girls are socialized to decorate themselves in a way that boys are not.”
The Actual Ceremony Isn’t What Matters
The actual wedding ceremony isn’t even a part of the concept of “self-love,” as Bonnie Powers explained to CNN. Powers is actually preparing to make self-weddings her business, but when she talked to the news outlet about the symbolism of a self-marriage, she revealed that what’s really important has nothing to do with a lavish ceremony and, therefore, could be accomplished without spending thousands of dollars on planning a wedding. “It’s about acknowledging that you are a lovable, adorable, amazing person with all these fabulous qualities, and sometimes that’s really hard to stick with,” Powers said. So did Powers need a self-wedding to realize she was an “amazing person with all these fabulous qualities”? Not at all. Later in the interview, she explains that she accomplished the same sense of self-awareness and admiration for herself through yoga.
