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7 Reasons Why Marrying Yourself Does Not Make You a Strong Black Woman

 

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Being Married Does Not Equate to Being Strong

The idea of marrying oneself as a display of strength is problematic because it perpetuates the misconception that a woman’s strength is directly correlated to her marital status. What makes a woman strong has nothing to do with whether she is married or not nor does it have anything to do with her role in the family structure. While a woman can be a strong mother or a strong wife, those titles are not what dictate her strength. To marry yourself and correlate that with proof that you are a strong Black woman only suggests that there is a direct connection between a woman’s strength and whether or not there is a ring on her finger.

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Being Married by a Certain Age Isn’t That Great of a Life Goal

Not only should women have greater aspirations than to simply get married, but setting marriage as a goal can also have a damaging effect on a woman’s relationships. “If we see marriage as a goal, and/or a necessary life stage, we lose sight of everything except the end game,” wrote Jennifer Armstrong of Sexy Feminist. “We want to check marriage off on our to-do list and move on.” Armstrong explains that marriage in and of itself should never be a woman’s goal. Instead, women should confidently move through life and use marriage as a way to celebrate true love when they just so happen to find it.

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4 thoughts on “7 Reasons Why Marrying Yourself Does Not Make You a Strong Black Woman

  1. Total BS! A "strong Black woman" is for the birds. It perpetuates being a mammy, a mule. Doing every dam thing alone under the sun; never complaining, always pushing along no matter the pain, sorrow, lack, struggle, burden….just like a mule. This always drains a woman of her femininity and sweetness. In addition this nonsense perpetuates the saying, " I don't need a man". No we are not to be valued based on if we have a man or not or if we're married or not, but this perpetuates feminism and further pushes the man out of the picture. Marrying oneself…..puh-leeze!

  2. "Not only should women have greater aspirations than to simply get married, but setting marriage as a goal can also have a damaging effect on a woman’s relationships. “If we see marriage as a goal, and/or a necessary life stage, we lose sight of everything except the end game,” wrote Jennifer Armstrong of Sexy Feminist. "

    Fascinating. What's the "end game"?

  3. I was stuck in confusion about the phrase "marrying yourself".

  4. Jerol Floxin says:

    Polygamy have to be a choice one have to make in life not a taboo !!

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