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New Study: Most Women Don’t Marry Their ‘Best’ Sex Partner

This goes against the premise of every single romance novel, but you’re not going to marry the best sex of your life. At least, not if you’re like most women.

According to a recent study by iVillage, less than half of wedded women married the person who was the best sex of their lives (52 percent say that was an ex.) In fact, 66 percent would rather read a book, watch a movie or take a nap than sleep with a spouse.

Amanda Chatel, a 33-year-old writer from the East Village, says, “With the men I’ve loved, the sex has been good, sometimes great, but never ‘best.’ It’s resulted in many orgasms and was fun but, comparatively speaking, it didn’t have that intensity that comes with the ‘best’ sex.

“I knew [my best sex partner] was temporary, and so the great sex was the best because the sex was the relationship,” she adds. “We didn’t have to invest in anything else.”

Knowing something is in scarce supply enhances desire, and that’s difficult to do in a marriage. You can’t really tell your partner that you’re going out for groceries and may never come back. Well, not if you want any semblance of the stability that generally defines marriages.

Chatel also admits, “We tend to remember things better than they actually were because we no longer have them.”

That might explain why such a variety of women recall having passionate sex in the hallway of someone’s apartment, but forget that they had to have sex in the hallway because he had four roommates and slept on a futon.

A 36-year-old marketing executive from Chelsea we’ll call Abby says that “what makes sex incredible, or places it into the range of ‘best sex’, is an element of danger. There’s an element of disobedience . . . that elicits a feeling of carnal desperation. [That feeling is often provoked by] the guy who you shouldn’t be with versus the one that you marry.”

Read more: NY Post

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