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10 Steps to Help Save a Troubled Marriage

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Our focus here at Black Love Forum is to give our audience the tools to create healthy and long lasting relationships, this includes marriages.  I’m particularly an avid supporter in this area, and I wanted to share some information that my expertise has given me.  If you implement some or all of the steps below, it will be a great start to a healthy end.
1. Get Help
Most couples make the mistake of getting professional help too late in the game.  The earlier you begin counseling with a professional, the better outcome you will have.
 
2. Take responsibility for what you are doing wrong
Most couples blame each other for the problem of the relationship. But in most cases both parties play a major role in the problem the relationship is having.  It is easier to see the blame in your partner, but more difficult to see the blame in yourself.  When couples begin to take responsibility for their role in the problem, things begin to turn around. Maybe you haven’t done what your partner has done, but you have done something.
 
3. Increase you time together
Marriage problems push couples away from each other, just as depression kills the appetite for food.  I often tell people who are depressed to schedule their times to eat and eat even if they are not hungry. The same is true for relationships. You have to schedule and increase your time together because the problems you are having will force you to be apart.
 
4. Have conversations about when you met and what you felt

 You hooked up for a reason.  You liked what you saw and you decided to lock yourself into what you felt.  Go back to when you met and just be there for a moment…

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