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Regrets: Learn From Others Before Rushing Off to Greener Grass

“Regrets. I’ve had a few,” Frank Sinatra crooned in his famous song. But how often do people regret their divorces?

Even thrice-married Donald Trump once revealed to a former employee that he wished he didn’t detonate his 15-year marriage to Ivana Trump by having an affair with — and later marrying — Marla Maples.

According to the New York Post, Maples’ former publicist, Chuck Jones, recounted a conversation he had with Trump before his divorce from Ivana was final. “I think it was lust … and had I the opportunity to do it over, I would have stayed with my family,” Trump reportedly told Jones.

The wake-up call that Trump speaks of often happens when people realize how the split will affect their family — but it’s likely too late. The momentary high from being with someone new often blinds people to the realities of what life is after divorce, especially when kids are involved.

Still, it has to be satisfying and simultaneously heartbreaking for Ivana Trump to hear her errant husband acknowledge that he may have made a mistake.

Celebrity divorce attorney Raoul Felder believes that many people — like Trump — regret breaking up their marriages for lust. “You exchange boredom for lust, and the end result is that you end up sharing nothing with the new person except bouncing around on a bed. Your life gets more complicated and certainly not easier,” he told me.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard clients say, “If I only knew what this involved, I may have not rushed out of my marriage.”

Part of the problem is that the media focuses on hot, passionate sex. Couples feel that if the heat isn’t blazing in their bedroom, that their marriage is dull, diluted and unfulfilling.

I am not saying that lust isn’t an important component of a relationship. That pulse-quickening, heart-beating passion makes you feel alive. But it must be put into context…

To read the entire story by Jill Brook, go to: Huffington Post







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