There is emotional pain of having someone that you used to love, and maybe continue to love, walk out of your life. It’s understandable if you might feel like a victim after the break-up, especially if your ex lied to you, cheated or was possibly verbally/emotional/physical abusive. Perhaps the events that led to your break up are just too similar to what has happened to you in past relationships. After all, this break up may not have been your idea. If it was up to you, the relationship or marriage would still be intact. Here are tips to help you move out of “victim mode” so you can heal your heartache.