‘Shoulda Been Real with Cyn’: Joe Budden’s Attempt to Drop Relationship Gems Derails When Fans Bring Up Ex Cyn Santana

It seems Joe Budden can’t do anything without folks mentioning his ex-fiancée Cyn Santana.

The “Love and Hip Hop: New York” star took to his Instagram live session on Saturday night, April 4 and pinged in one of his female fans. The woman spoke to the podcaster about how men don’t take responsibility for leading women on. Budden, however, disagreed and suggested it was the woman’s fault for placing expectations on men who never said they were ready to commit.

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Joe Budden and a female Instagram follower. @joebudden/Instagram

“Y’all will just give a nigga some raw sex, sometimes y’all will invite yourselves over five times a week, sometimes y’all will wanna call every day and talk,” Budden told his female follower on live, before adding to his relationship advice. “Fam I’m not a dick head I’m gonna answer the phone and talk, let’s talk, but no I have not said I wanted to be your boyfriend, I have not said I’m looking for a relationship, I have not said I viewed you in that light. I am enjoying what’s happening.”

Budden continued to say that women often get their feelings hurt by men who won’t commit because they’re too “busy trying to sell” themselves as the “greatest girlfriend in the world.”

While many fans agreed with the retired rapper’s point of view, many questioned his previous intentions with his ex Santana.

“I do respect joe for keeping it 1000% here but damn he shoulda been this real with my girl Cyn smh. Had her looking thirsty on camera”

“Basically stop making up scenarios in your head and hurting your own feelings. 🤷🏽‍♀️ yeah joe right”

“Sir but ya BM say different. Anyways leading a woman on is toxic and playin games”

“He’s not lying! People be giving wayyy too much to a person that ain’t looking for what you’re looking for. They’re just enjoying receiving what you’re giving.”

“This is stupid. As fuck. Point blank period. No wonder why Cyn left that ass. Pathetic”

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Joe Budden and Cyn Santana @VH1 screengrabs

Santana and Budden called it quits sometime last year. The 27-year-old mother claimed to have found naked photos of other women on his phone. Budden denied her allegations.

As of now, the pair seem to be in a great space co-parenting their 2-year-old son Lexington Budden.

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