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‘That’s Why You Can’t Find a Man’: Fantasia Ignites Controversy Over Her Take On Gender Roles in Relationships

Fantasia has sparked some controversy for her take on the roles men and women play in relationships.

The singer appeared on “The Breakfast Club” Monday and candidly opened up about how she feels some women are going the wrong way about finding love with a man.

“We need more men to stand up and lead the way,” she says Sept. 16. “Most women are trying to be the leader, that’s why you can’t find a man. You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way.”

She added that the idea that women can take the lead in the home is “a generational curse in how society has placed our men, and women have to stand up and be the mother and the father and the provider. So now, you’re so bad you can’t be told nothing that when the right man comes, you lose him because you’re trying to be the man.”

The singer, who eloped with husband Kendall Taylor within three weeks of knowing him, went on to explain women and men can still be equal because “at the end of the day I’m the neck, my man’s the head. So he can’t make any moves without his wife. It all works together. But you can’t be the head of the house. You got to let the man be the head of the house.”

Still, Fantasia said women “have to learn how to submit. You can still be a queen. A king needs his queen. It’s certain things that he can’t see that we see. … Anybody play chess? … We work together but the queen has to sit back and allow her king to be the king.”

Fantasia acknowledged it was a lesson she had to learn herself, given the fact that she took care of everything — including her own family. But she credited her husband, a felon who turned his life around and became a partner and COO of courier service Metro Transportation, for helping her come down from that. She said he told her to “pass it over to me and let me take care of that.”

But despite Tasia’s experience and her opinion on how men and women should operate together, many on social media disagreed.

“Everything that Fantasia said was a crock of s–t and regressive as f–k. People who think men are the ‘head’ have no understanding of the toxicity of traditional gender roles and the damage that type of thinking has done to centuries of women. Especially POC/Trans women.”

“Chile let me turn this Fantasia interview OFF. She’s on the breakfast club saying women need to let their men be the head while we be the necks.”

“Fantasia really got on the Breakfast Club and said ‘Most women are trying to be the leader, and that’s why you can’t find a man’ GIRL”

Still, some found nothing wrong with what Fantasia said and agreed with her stance.

“Fantasia dropping gems on breakfast club.”

“I agree with what Fantasia said on the breakfast club.”

“Fantasia was speaking real s–t on the breakfast club.”

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