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The Freedom of Unschooling: Raising Liberated Black Children Without The Restrictions of School

girlsdanceBy Akilah Richards

My daughters Marley, 11, and Sage, 9, are fully immersed in childhood, exploring a variety of places and things and learning to manage relationships among their family and their peers.

Our girls are beginning to develop their own unique understanding of the world and their place within it. In many ways, they are typical tweens—fun-loving, curious, magical, moody, and filled with bold opinions on just about everything.

But unlike most children their age, Marley and Sage are not enrolled in school, nor are they homeschooled. Instead they—along with my husband Kris and I—embrace an alternative to the traditional adult-to-child learning and living environment of schedules, structures, and schools.  Through unschooling (also known as worldschooling or free-range learning) they learn what they want to learn, at their own pace.

Welcome to Our World

It’s almost 7:20 on Wednesday night and our family’s evening symphony is in full swing. I’m in the living room standing on my purple yoga mat, half-committed to giving Kemetic Yoga another try. Grunts from my feigned back bends are accompanied by the rhythmic taps of the chopping knife slicing through pieces of pumpkin and carrot. That’s Sage’s doing; she’s acting sous chef to her dad, Kris, who has gotten used to her ritual of showing up ready to work — often with recipe ideas in mind — whenever he’s making dinner. At 9 years old, Sage is pretty handy with a knife and cutting board, and is generally at home inside a kitchen, or anywhere that requires her hands-on participation. She enjoys painting, reading, digital art (Sketchbook is her favorite app), and loves cooking and baking.

Akilah girls towelSage’s big sister, Marley, is not so big on the culinary arts. She’s nestled into the corner of the living room couch, staring at her MacBook, immersed in Shane Smith’s exciting introduction to her favorite documentary TV series, Vice. Marley is 11, and is more interested in forensic science, criminal psychology and all things anime/manga than she is with anything in any kitchen.

Kris and I will likely eat dinner together while chatting about our work and our daughters. We all eat at around the same time, but not always together, as is the case tonight. Around 9-ish, the four of us might pile up on one bed and get lost in a few audio chapters of The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. We don’t get to listen to it together in our car like we do when we’re living in America.

These days we walk most places. When we do get into a car, we’re sharing laughably inadequate seating space with our crammed in co-passengers, being urged by our driver to “small up” ourselves so he can fit one more fare into his cab. We’ve been living on Jamaica’s north coast for five months, and in a couple more months, we’ll head back to the States to spend a few months somewhere in the South, either Georgia or Florida.

After our usual post-Hitchhiker’s Guide debates about interstellar travel and space aliens who write notably horrible poetry, I’ll probably address a writing deadline with a couple hours of late-night focus, and Kris might put some finishing touches on a Web design project. The girls get to bed at around midnight, and Kris and I follow suit a couple of hours later.

No one in our home has a set bedtime, nor do any of us rise to the sound of a 6-something a.m. alarm. We prioritize flow over structure and biological clocks over buzzing alarms. We are a family who traded in our good jobs and gifted school programs for liberation in the form of location independent, school-free living.

family-market-mobayHow We Prioritize Learning With School-Free Living

Unschooling is essentially a curiosity-led approach to learning devoid of testing and predefined curricula. It leaves the exploration and implementation of knowledge to children, instead of relying on the passing of information from adults and books, based on what is believed (by adults) to be necessary learning. This approach has been an invaluable resource for our family as we raise children, travel the world, and continue to turn our interests into income.

To some, my family represents an anomaly. I am a 37-year-old woman who writes about self-expression for a living. Writing is not my side hustle, nor is it the thing I’m doing in between jobs. I write for a living, and through my writing, I engage in private (coaching) and public (speeches and workshops) talks around the things I write. My husband, Kris, is 36 and he develops ideas for a living. He’s a creative brander, hired by organizations and solopreneurs to develop, design, and communicate cohesive brand messages across print and web platforms. We’re lucky to do work we love, and fortunate to have family who has backed us up when life challenges and ebbs in our client tide left us with funny money issues. But luck and good fortune are only part of our lifestyle equation; the rest comes from a strategic approach to life in general, and parenting in particular.

The Mindset Behind the Unschooling Lifestyle

Kris and I help our daughters get access to information and guide them through everyday living and the life skills to navigate adulthood. We don’t position ourselves as their primary teachers, nor do we see ourselves as their role models. Though we understand our position of power as their parents and default primary influencers, we believe in the old adage of it taking a village, and actively help our daughters seek out mentors and other resources for their areas of interest.

girls-birds-mobayAs their parents, we work toward a shared goal of raising women who are comfortable in their skin, versed in the skill of confident autonomy, and experienced in how to mine and utilize information in the digital age. We unschool because having our lives revolve around our children sitting in a building for six hours per day stopped making sense for our interests and needs as a family. We are not anti-school, we are pro-learning, and for our daughters, school put unnecessary boundaries and segmented blocks of time around their ability to explore and process the information they had gathered.

Also, school can create a dangerous reliance on external validation (teacher’s approval and social acceptance), which we find particularly dangerous for Black children, as most of the teachers in our daughters’ school did not look like our daughters, nor did they share our family’s cultural and spiritual values. Those values are a vital part of raising a whole child who is not just savvy in their current time, but has a growing awareness of their context inside the American system, and as part of the developing world.

We believe that traditional grade school and the pursuit of a university education offer one path to professional and perhaps personal fulfillment, but there are many alternatives, especially today. And especially because Black children in particular are grossly underestimated and unfairly punished across American schools.

When our girls were in public school, they were both labeled as gifted children and their elementary school did a great job putting together a special curriculum to fit our daughters’ appetites for information. But it was not enough, nor could it ever be, because our children — like most children — do not learn by collecting information, they learn by experience and guidance. And when you take the lid off a child’s learning environment, you really get to see their incredible capacity to absorb, interpret and utilize information to affect their environments and get what they want.

akilah and marleyInstead of trying to work within the system to lobby and hope for change, we are designing our own liberation. The four of us are learning how to seek, gather and process information using new media tools and resources instead of textbooks, teacher’s interpretations and bosses. Each of us are developing relationships with people all over the world, instead of just the people who happen to be geographically close to us by means of our careers, school or social circles. We connect with people based on our interests and goals, not just happenstance, age or geography. Marley and Sage create community based on their own needs and engage in healthy competition through digital meet-up communities like where they earn badges for everyday life skills, and Khan Academy, where they take as much time as they need to practice the math skills they’ll actually use in life.

Living Our Politics, Buying Into Our Beliefs

We don’t own a home, and we don’t plan on buying one until the four of us feel ready to settle into a community somewhere on the planet. Flight deals on and well-reviewed rentals on bring us far more joy than our big house-busy days lifestyle ever did. As a matter of fact, our spending habits have shifted significantly, causing us to realize that we often bought things to fit into our home, but they didn’t ever fit into our lives, and they definitely didn’t fit into our beliefs. Without realizing it, we were feeding the same capitalist machine we claimed we were against.

A recent report published by the Nielson Co. and the National Newspaper Publishers Association (NNPA) estimated Black buying power in America at $1.1 trillion dollars annually. The report reads:

“Blacks watch more television (37 percent), make more shopping trips (eight), purchase more ethnic beauty and grooming products (nine times more), read more financial magazines (28 percent) and spend more than twice the time at personal hosted websites than any other group.”

marley on swingIn our family, we know we won’t significantly affect those numbers on our own, but we live our politics and buy into our beliefs by buying from Black-owned business and businesses local to wherever we live at the time. We often (though not always, depending on shipping issues in our area) buy household and body products from Black-owned sellers online. We buy food directly from the people who grow it, or know where it came from. As we extend our travel options, we prioritize Black nations, in part so we can help our daughters recognize and navigate the Eurocentrism that permeates media, school and other everyday environments. Our intention is to counter the messages and daily interactions that separate children from the personal power, deep relevance, self-exploration and sense of belonging that helps children transition into confident, well-adjusted adults.

There are systems and structures all around us, and some may seem inviting or even unavoidable. But if you can manage to find or facilitate a community of people — whether local or virtual — who are doing the work of deliberate life design and of defining and creating liberation based on their own definitions of it, then start there. I know unschooling isn’t feasible or even for everyone, but I also know that it is an option for many people, if they could believe that there is more to life than waiting for Fridays and cursing Mondays. We had that life, and with little money and few examples, we are creating a new normal for our family. Today, our measure of success ignores GPAs, degrees and the American Dream, and instead puts a focus on confident autonomy, autodidactic learning, strong discernment skills and happy people who are willing to approach their own ideas of liberation and joy from an action-based space.

We don’t want our daughters hoping for change, we are equipping them with the tools to create it.

Akilah S. Richards is a six-time author, digital content writer, feminist speaker, and lifestyle coach. She writes passionately about self-expression, womanhood, modern feminism, location independence and the unschooling lifestyle. Akilah is a storyteller who believes in the power of expressed personal narrative and deep self-acceptance as tools for authentic self-expression and community enrichment. Learn more about her work at

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25 thoughts on “The Freedom of Unschooling: Raising Liberated Black Children Without The Restrictions of School

  1. Excellent piece. Deserves to be read by everyone. What a wonderful way to open up some minds. I had to share (FaceBook, Twitter) and via email with my friends.

  2. You said the teachers at school didn't look like your daughters. I'm wondering if you find the homeschool community more diverse? Maybe it's different in other regions, or maybe it's a growing trend. But, I see the homeschool community looks mainly Caucasian. I would love to know more about how we can promote racial diversity in homeschooling.

  3. Excellent article.

  4. Kali Kali says:

    This was great and inspiring for me as I'm looking into homeschooling my daughter in a way that lets her true self shine.

  5. Very VERY interesting read! Will be sharing!

  6. Great article, children deserve to be in an environment where they can thrive and feel good about themselves, we love unschooling!

  7. Wonderful well written article very thoroughly written and understood.

  8. Excellent piece! Thank you for writing and sharing this. The audacity of living this way, the removal of limitations, the expansion of perception… Simply amazing.

  9. Kudos from a fellow writer and mom of autonomous learner…a great read…thanks.

  10. Loved this article. As a father of four homeschooled children, I know efforts like this are our only path to true liberation. I am very excited about following the work of Ms Richards.

  11. Sara Devine says:

    This is a very intriguing article. While traveling and living abroad, it seems to make the most sense, I've been contemplating this myself. My kindergartener learned a lot when she toured with us. She developed an expansive knowledge base, with foreign languages, culture, people and money, etc. But I've seen her excel during this school year with our help, a great teacher and a really good charter school. I guess it all comes down to choosing what's best for you/your kids based on what's available….because, I agree that we're often better educators than any school can ever be. That being said, I think "a village" is still the best.
    So, I wonder if the lack of experimenting with other teaching styles, structure and assessments will backfire one day? For example, if they decide to re-enter the school system at any point, even at the university level, will this lifestyle be a hindrance?

  12. Kali, when looking please make sure you are running towards it, my wife have also been successful with two (2) children while being home schooled, the results have been two (2) full rides. It works every time because you will make it work.

  13. Angela Adrar says:

    This article definitely articulated why our family does the same We spend half the year in Colombi and half the year in DC living simple dignified lives with our 2 and 3 year old. Nothing can buy the freedom we feel and the love that develops between us from sharing the world with our children.

  14. Thank you, Denise! We are enjoying the journey, and I love that it resonates with you! Sending you good vibes and much success!

  15. Happy to hear it, Kali Kali! Let me know how it goes. How old is your daughter?

  16. Well said, Odis! Thank you for reading! You can follow up with my work over at

  17. Thank you, Teresa! Hi-fives!

  18. Great insights, Sara–thanks for sharing! I agree that it's about choosing what feels best for us and our children; that's the foundation of unschooling–real choice. This lifetyle doesn't make structure more diffictult for them, should they decide to re-enter the school system. That one is easy; the one we do requires much more self-discipline and consistency than being handed a syllabus that tells you what to expect and what you'll be doing. The question you posed is one we get a lot, I think because we know how difficult it can be to go from structure (school and jobs) into self-guided (unschooling and entrerperneurship). But when it's the other way around, since the child would have chosen to re-enter school, they would be amenable to the structure and bring their practiced skills of self-discipline and internal motivation to the schooling environment.

  19. So glad you enjoyed it, Tatiana!

  20. I'm so glad it resonated with you, Amera! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

  21. Yessss! Angela it's so great to hear from other life designers! I'm happy for your family! And thanks for reading!

  22. "Our intention is to counter the messages and daily interactions that separate children from the personal power, deep relevance, self-exploration and sense of belonging that helps children transition into confident, well-adjusted adults." This is such an essential part of unschooling our children and deschooling ourselves as adults. Thank you for sharing your story and your powerful insights into social issues and the value of learning outside the box. As an mom of two unschooled children living in Senegal, my support system lies in shared stories like this one. Thank you!

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