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5 Ways to End the Civil War Between Black Men and Black Women

 

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Both sides have been hurt by the other in this “Civil War.” Recognizing the assumptions and common misconceptions that are injurious to relationships between Black men and Black women is key to understanding what the other has to deal with and overcome.

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3 thoughts on “5 Ways to End the Civil War Between Black Men and Black Women

  1. Reena Walker says:

    What the hell is empower magazine? Are they a research firm or the Census Bureau? No. They are a magazine with an agenda. Black males have dated and marry out at a much higher rate than black women have for DECADES. They haven't shown that they are loyal to a race first dynamic when it comes to relationship the way black women have yet they want black women to be. It's the "I don't want to marry you but you better not marry anyone else or you are a race traitor" mentality that is rampant among black males because they view black women as their property. No black woman has to be beholden and wait around for black males that don't want them or put up with abuse or neglect. According to PEW Research, a legitimate source, the marrying out rate for black males is 24 percent and for black women its 9 percent. So I have no idea why a magazine is looked to for information when you can get the actual research numbers on line very easily. You cannot heal black relationships by skewing what is really going on and you cant make it seem like "its both" when it isn't.

    Black women are devalued and are left in poverty with children by black males on a daily basis. Far too many of them are being sexually irresponsible and don't want to marry black women. They also treat dark skinned women as if they are unattractive. This is why more and more black women, who have traditionally been loyal to the race, far more than black males ever have when it comes to dating and marriage, are beginning to look to other races for companionship and saying that they are fed up. There is way too much pimping going on and these guys want to play games instead of grow up. Ask any black woman who is no longer interested in dealing with the way many of them demean, degrade and devalue black women and they will tell you that this is exactly what's going on.

    Instead of correcting that behavior and trying to treat black women with respect, marry, build family and community and stay faithful to one woman, they instead want to control black women through religious or pro black ideology and ridicule them if they don't want to live in a fantasy land with them or remain beholden to these male deity figures that don't exist or the "kang/queen" nonsense that isn't changing anything about their current condition. Then they go on to castigate black women who are unconscious or uneducated and suffering from low self-esteem, worsening that self esteem and self perception these women have and give that as the reason for their mistreatment of black women on the whole. This is the real problem that is going on and black women who are fed up with it are going to school and getting out of these areas where this behavior of abuse and neglect of them is rampant.

    These are the real issues the black people refuse to deal with because they will never point fingers at the black male because black people have been socialized into what I call the "protect the black male at all costs syndrome". Unless and until, however, this behavior is changed, you will see no improvement in these relationship situations. No amount of skewing the data will do so and no amount of trying to say "its both" will change the facts. So now lets hear how bad black women are from the misogyny gang or the attacks on me about what you think my personal life is. Because that is the typical response when this is brought up by any black woman. But black women know the real deal and so do black males. You certainly aren't fooling me or anyone else with the nonsense and you aren't correcting the problem if you keep responding in the same way.

  2. Doc T Dee says:

    THERE SHOULD BEEN 5 MORE! No.6 WE MUST SENSOR or CHANGE DISRESPECTFUL & DEGRADING LYRICAL CONTENT OF SONGS PLAYED OVER & OVER ON OUR RADIOS and BOYCOTT HOLLYWOOD FILMS & TV, FOR MORE POSITIVE, STRONG & RESPECTFUL ROLES FOR BLACK MALES! No.7 BLACK/BROWNS MUST REALIZE THE EXISTENCE ON UNDERCOVER RACISM!, AN UNDER COVER RACIST SYSTEM HELL BENT ON DIVIDE and CONQUER..TO DESTROY BLACK FAMILIES! BY DRIVING A WEDGE BETWEEN US!, USING MONEY & TV TO EMPOWER OVER HER BLACK MALE BROTHER!, IT HAS BEEN WORKING FOR A LONG! LONG! TIME!, PROMOTING SINGLE BLACK FEMALE PARENTING!, THUS PRODUCING A LOST BLACK GENERATION!, BLACK WOMEN MUST STEP BACK & UP and GIVE BLACK MEN/FATHERS!, THEIR *AUTHORITY*!, OVER THEIR SEED/CHILDREN!

  3. Meld App says:

    Take a look at MELD. http://www.meld-app.com A new dating app designed for black professionals. A step in the right direction.

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