Michael Sam Sr., the father of Missouri football star Michael Sam who revealed this week that he is gay, was so upset when his son told him of his sexuality that he said he could not finish his meal.
“I couldn’t eat no more, so I went to Applebee’s to have drinks,” Sam Sr. told The New York Times. “I don’t want my grandkids raised in that kind of environment.”
He said he received a text message from his son that read, “Dad, I’m gay” last Tuesday. And while many have publicly applauded Sam’s son for his courage, the player’s father was less than thrilled. He told the Times that he’s “old school” and that the idea of a homosexual player in the NFL bothers him, even when that person is his own son.
“As a Black man, we have so many hurdles to cross. This is just one he has to cross,” Sam Sr. told The Times.
He told the newspaper that late Hall of Famer Deacon Jones, the leader of the Rams’ Fearsome Foursome who is credited with terming the word “sack,” is “turning over in his grave.”
He told the newspaper, however, that he loves his son and hopes he makes it into the NFL.
Sam led the SEC with 11.5 sacks, and 19 tackles for a loss. Many NFL draft projections see him as a likely mid-round pick, with some saying Sam could go as high as the third round, with a possible position switch to outside linebacker. He is rated as the 12th-best outside pass-rusher in the draft by ESPN Scouts Inc.
His upbringing in Hitchcock, Texas, was filled with adversity. As such, he told ESPN that his decision to come out seemed easy compared to the tragedies he has had to endure.
“I endured so much in my past: seeing my older brother killed from a gunshot wound, not knowing that my oldest sister died when she was a baby and I never got the chance to meet her,” he said. “My second-oldest brother went missing in 1998, and me and my little sister were the last ones to see him … my other two brothers have been in and out of jail since eighth grade, currently both in jail.
“Telling the world I’m gay is nothing compared to that.”
On Sunday, the defensive end told ESPN that his parents, who are no longer together, took the news well, which contradicts the comments from his father to The Times.
“I told my mom and dad last week, and they just pretty much said, ‘We knew and we love you and support you,'” he said. “I’m their baby boy. I’m the first to go to college. I’m the first to graduate college. Something like this is just another milestone.”
The Times reported that when Sam returns to his hometown he usually stays with friends instead of his family.
“I’m closer to my friends than I am to my family,” Sam told the newspaper.
