Unfortunately, more and more people find themselves in harmful and destructive relationships.
Clients will tell me they repeatedly have love relationships with a person who later turns out to be abusive or addictive in some way.
One woman said she frequently meets men who are initially exciting and interesting, only to find out later they are “drunks, liars or cheaters.” A man said he continually dates women who are “gold diggers,” only interested in his wealth.
Some people actually have a predisposition to subconsciously attract unhealthy relationships into their life. They seem to have a magnetic compass that draws them to abusive or codependent relationships.
For example, one person (or both), in an unhealthy way, is psychologically dependent on the other person who might be engaged in some type of self-destructive behavior (including drug addiction). Why does this happen? And, if you have this tendency, what can you do about it?
If this has been your experience, here’s my answer as an astrologer: Your poor relationship choices may be based on the way the planet Neptune affects you. When it comes to love and romance, one of the dangers of Neptune’s influence is that it can cause you to be attracted to unhealthy relationships where you deceive yourself about the person you’re in love with or the nature of your relationship.
In analyzing the personality and birth chart of someone who has a history of these bad relationship experiences, I often see where their problem originates. They’re predisposed to attracting unsavory characters who they’re destined to have an unhealthy relationship. In some cases, they have an addictive attraction to people who will abuse them. I call this predisposition: the “bad-boy” or “bad-girl” syndrome…
Read More: Larry Schwimmer, elephantjournal.com