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4 years, 4 Months is Ideal Age Gap For Couples in Love

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Love knows no age, right? Not according to this survey.

Confused.com asked 2,000 adults what they thought was the ideal age difference is in a couple and most respondents answered: four years and four months, with the man being older.

What does this mean about our views on love? If we go by these numbers, apparently, not a lot has changed from society’s outdated notion that a man is expected to be the provider in the relationship. Most people still believe that a romantic relationship is ideal when it’s between an older man and a younger woman. Not to mention, the “cougar” and “gold-digger” stereotypes are, sadly, alive and well. Both men and women seemed to share the same opinion: only 1 percent of women think that an ideal relationship is with a younger man, and just 2 percent of men said something similar about dating an older woman.

But besides all of that, why the “four-and-four” number? What is it about four years and four months that makes this the magical age gap for couples in love? When I dug deeper into the details of this study, one small fact caught my eye … and you might say it has something to do with dollar signs.

Over half of the women surveyed said they couldn’t pay their rent or mortgage without their romantic partner. Compare that to how many men responded in the same sentiment: less than a quarter.

It’s no surprise that financial stability has sometimes been the glue that’s kept couples together (whether that’s really advantageous or not is a different matter). Especially in the wake of the recession, when divorced couples were even sharing the same living space and in, essentially, the same arrangements they had when they were married.

Read more: YourTango

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