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Are You Raising Any of These 10 Red Flags to Women?

Posted byBy ABS Contributor | Published on: | Updated on January 3, 2013 CommentsComments (0)

When it comes to dating, women often go against their better judgment and overlook quirky things men do to cut them some slack. Although the women you’re dating are trying their best to see your better qualities, there are definitely near-universal red flags they look for when sizing you up.

Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the first date.

1. Constantly talking about your ex
Constantly talking about your ex with your dates can make a very bad first impression and run a new woman off in a hurry! Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can’t stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness.

2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will skip over men in this situation because it’s clear that these guys don’t like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious commitment issues.

3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe–but they don’t want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to or what to wear. Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to run from you very quickly.

4. Negativity
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves; therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.

5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions.

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