Why Some Single Women are Attracted to Married Men

A common explanation is that a bloke over 30 and still single is either a serial mummy’s boy, he is gay or a social misfit… all ‘no-go’ areas for the nubile, hot-blooded woman. But surely there must be more to it than that!

Now, I could be wrong but it appears single women dating married men is much more prevalent an occurrence than single men dating married women. Only an observation but deserving of further scrutiny.

According to a study conducted by the University of Louisville, many single women tend to engage in something the study referred to as “mate copying.” In other words, women tend to believe that if another woman has already collared a man, there must be something this man possesses that is worth having.

Maybe it’s because these women love a challenge, a drama, no strings, or simply the thrill of “theft”. Whatever the case, many women have revealed that sex with married men is awesome. Why?

The study referred to Angela, 28, who enjoys a high-position in a big corporation and had an affair with a married man who worked in her office. Angela told the study, “The sex was an incredible thrill because we had to be careful all the time. I would end up holding on to a cabinet in the office supplies room while he penetrated me with quick thrusts during lunchtime, it would excite me like no other sex I’ve ever had.”

She admits it was tons of fun, until the “relationship” started moving from lust to emotion. “I began behaving like a possessive child and that’s when I knew it was time to let go.”

“But”, Angela continued, “I knew many single women who not only enjoyed lusty relationships with married men, they would take risks that I thought were simply immoral, like having sex in the married couple’s bed.”

Maybe the “no strings” thing is attractive to women. Pure lust requires no need to meet parents or conduct boring courting procedures. Tearing at each others’ underclothes in a frenzied sweat against a filing cabinet before returning to work sporting a crimson glow has fulfilled many a female fantasy.

But Julia Gillard’s predilection for married men presents an interesting psychological quandary. Women with a strong competitive streak can also be addicted to married men.

Such women may be willing to take married men as lovers if only to prove that they are superior to the wife when it comes to sexual and/or intellectual prowess. That shouldn’t be too hard, as torrid lust within marriage normally wanes with familiarity.

This single female phenomenon may have little to do with the desirability of the man but the fact that she has convinced him to cheat on his wife in order to be with her represents a huge power trip.

A woman who consistently lusts after other women’s “unattainable” husbands is not looking for a commitment of love. The predatory single female generally prefers a man who is rich, powerful, successful or famous and with a flexible itinerary. Success will fulfil a need to augment her worth. It is confirmation that she is preferred…

Read more: The Pickering Post

 

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