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Focus on Your Happiness, What’s Working (or Not) for You

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We all want to be loved and cared for. We all want to know that there is someone somewhere thinking about us. Everybody wants to be somebody’s special someone. We however, most times, ignore the most important things like Is he/she what/who I really want? Are we even compatible? Does he/she make me happy? There’s just a lot we need to consider that we usually overlook.

You really don’t have to rush into a relationship. You can chill out, give yourself time. Have fun alone. Be single. Give your life and your heart some air and space. Don’t hurriedly get into a relationship because your friends are dating. There is nothing wrong with hanging out with the person for sometime to know the kind of person he/she is and if you want to be with then or not.

It’s also totally okay to start dating immediately after you meet, but be sure it’s what you want to do. Spend enough time with then if you must. Take time out and think about it if you are not sure. Why jump into relationships and get out soon after, heartbroken/ tired of enduring some behaviors-that were pretty obvious before- which you overlooked? Is that really necessary? I mean you really don’t have to go through all that. Be sure you are ready before you even do anything.

Many people stay in relationships even though they aren’t working out. Why stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate you or treat you well? You keep saying it will get better but it only gets worse. Some, at this point will leave, others will stay because they feel like all the time they’ve stayed can’t go to waste.

There are many men/women. Surely you’ll find yourself a suitable partner when you are ready. Take charge of yourself and your heart. Don’t ever feel like you need to be with some person no matter how bad they treat you. Don’t even try to use it and form “victim.” Use your brain and you heart together. Never let your heart work without tour brain.

In a relationship, its supposed to be give and take. You shouldn’t be the only one putting an effort. You should be getting some positive vibe from your partner . If it isn’t working like that, then its probably time to WALK OUT of the relationship…

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