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One Big Mistake Married Couples Make: They Stop Pursuing Each Other

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By far, one of the easiest ways for couples to kill their marriage is when they stop pursuing one another.

Your goal everyday should be to work just as hard to keep your spouse as you did to win him/her in the first place. Let me explain.

Before marriage you put a LOT of effort into trying to win your future husband’s/wife’s love and trust.  You spent hours communicating. You sent cards, gifts and flowers regularly. You pursued your future spouse and made it your goal to win them to be yours.

Sadly, as I’ve seen too many times, a few months (or sometimes years) after the marriage, you quit pursuing one another as you once did. For some reason couples quit dating one another, pursuing one another and putting the other first. Maybe it’s because you get lazy. Maybe it’s because deep down you think, ”I’ve won him. He’s mine, so why must I continue to do all those things and work as hard as I did?” Personally, I think it’s because couples just get “comfortable” in their marriage … and that’s not good.

When you stop working to bless your spouse … problems begin to arise, cracks begin to form and the marriage relationship begins to break down. Due to frustrations you begin to close up and close one another off. You go from being soul-mates where intimacy was felt, to being simply roommates who just live together. When all this happens, needs quit being met and a couple is left wondering … “what happened to our marriage,” and “where did the person go that I married?” 

LISTEN … it is by far one of the most damaging things you can do in your marriage … not pursuing your spouse as hard to keep them as you did to win them!

Want to bless your marriage? Every morning when you wake up, ask yourself, “What can I do today to bless my spouse?”  THEN DO IT! Don’t get complacent in your marriage.

Husbands and wives … pursue your spouse … today!

Source: Trey Morgan

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