6 Ways To Get Him To Be Fair

So are you mad that you are stuck washing the dishes and doing the laundry again? Do you feel that your relationship needs a fairness check-up? It's important to address these compounding issues before resentment sets in. According to relationship experts, “Couples have different beliefs on what’s fair and fairness should be a balance of what you both agree upon in the context of your relationship.” To avoid unnecessary arguments and to keep peace in the relationship, here is how to establish your fairness code: Re-evaluate Your Expectations Discuss your ideal balance and expectations with your partner when it comes to chores, finances, sex, kids, or any aspect that might be causing conflict. This way you can both establish open communication and set of values that work for the both of you. Tell him what you need Try not to express your feelings when you are angry over the fact that you are doing the dishes while he is in the living room watching TV. You will likely get your needs met with honey instead of vinegar. Find ways to talk calmly about the help you need and work as a team. Show Appreciation To get appreciated, you have to give it. Putting yourself in your partners shoes builds trust and respect. When your man feels that he is appreciated, its starts to foster generosity on his part and he will be more likely to go out of his way for you. Don’t Withhold Nooky Most woman express their anger by never being in the mood because we are very sensitive creatures. Ladies, be warned that this can eventually cause damage to your sex life. Resentment and anger takes root once sex becomes part of the power struggle or used as a punishment tool. So next time, instead of faking sleep or rolling over from your man when you are annoyed, speak up and clear the air - leave sex out of it! Value Your Differences and Learn to Negotiate: We all have different standards so fighting over who is right or wrong is time consuming and takes up a lot of energy. I know that learning to negotiate can be very challenging but we must move past certain things so that we are not stuck in one place. Remember life is not fair and will throw at you many unexpected encounters, so the quicker you learn to negotiate your differences with a spirit of love and respect, the sooner you will reap the benefits of a prospering relationship. Change The Rules Life happens and it is in our control to react to these changes either positively or negatively. Whether you have a baby and need to figure out a nightly feeding routine, or you move to a bigger home that requires more housework for both of you, whatever the change might be, you have to be open to renegotiate or reevaluate the rules. Revisiting what works and what doesn't keeps both partners happy and lets the relationship blossom. Follow these are six tips to establish a “fairness code” in your relationship. What are your thoughts and how do you get him to be fair?

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