It seems Tyrese Gibson couldn’t celebrate the Dubai premiere of his new hit film “The Fate of the Furious” properly without apologizing for igniting the wrath of Black women over the past few weeks.
On Tuesday, April 11, a firestorm erupted after Gibson criticized women who choose to date as “sluts, skeezers, hoes, tramps and overly aggressive, promiscuous women” in a now-deleted BET Live interview.
Gibson also landed in the hot seat in March for sharing an Instagram post shaming women who wear weaves and have plastic surgery, saying, “We know when you got little chicken legs and it leads to an oversized #fake ass, you guys are really starting to go TOO FAR with manufactured beauty.”
Both statements led many Twitter users to lash out at Gibson, accusing him of sexism.
“My mother taught me better than this. … lesson learned in life you will learn that it’s not always ‘what’ you say, it’s the ‘how’ we choose to say it,” Gibson wrote on Instagram Saturday. For the record, I’m far from a misogynist, a male chauvinist or flat out mean. … My intentions were there but my delivery f—— horrible…. And clearly all the way off…. And for that, I sincerely apologize to all of the ladies.”
My mother taught me better than this….. lesson learned in life you will learn that It's not always "what" you say, it's the "how" we choose to say it. For the record I'm far from a misogynist, a male chauvinist or flat out mean….. My intentions were there but my delivery fucking horrible…. And clearly all the way off…. And for that I sincerely apologize to all of the ladies… Even after this apology…. Some may likely decide to NOT forgive me…. Time and consistency heals all wounds…. Although I've been consistently for years speaking on these topics and some of the same words in my message, I have never experienced what I am experiencing right now. – I've been getting dragged and feel the heat from my poor choice of words and approach to my messages, trust me….. Please accept this as my sincere apology for my poor choice of words – Shit gets real when it goes from a social media dragging to my own wife giving me the side eye and coming at me, even she's not happy with the way I've conducted myself…. it's crazy how non-public figures can say and do some really dumb shit and it will stay amongst your family and friends or local in your hood…. When you have been an entertainer for 15+ years the whole WORLD is literally watching you grow up & learn, bump your head, make mistakes and evolve as the world watches…. This is a real lesson learned… This is not just a regular IG post for me. I want to truly say that I'm sorry, I'm not APOLOGIZING in an effort to be politically correct, I apologize as a man first for the things that I've recently said about choices women have the right to make, for the terms that I've used and the way I've come across. I was raised to think and feel certain ways, and I'm learning new things that combat those messages. I am not perfect or all knowing, nor am I the one to claim to be. I've learned things through experience which I share, and through these last couple of weeks, I've learned a lot through this well deserved internet dragging…… This is about a man owning up to his actions, taking responsibility, recognizing how to do better, and actually doing better. Ladies you deserve better…
“Although I’ve been consistently for years speaking on these topics and some of the same words in my message, I have never experienced what I am experiencing right now,” Gibson said. “I’ve been getting dragged and feel the heat from my poor choice of words and approach to my messages, trust me….. Please accept this as my sincere apology for my poor choice of words.”
He went on to explain even his wife, Samantha Lee, whom he described as his “Black Queen” to another bout of controversy, was unhappy with his judgmental statements about women. Gibson added his upbringing influenced his way of thinking when it comes to how women should behave and said he’s been given lessons through “this well-deserved internet dragging.”
“This is about a man owning up to his actions, taking responsibility, recognizing how to do better, and actually doing better,” Gibson concluded. “Ladies you deserve better.”
Some welcomed Gibson’s apology.
Others questioned if the singer-actor was genuine, despite his statement that he was sincere.