Maintaining a happy long-term relationship isn’t easy. And when the going gets tough, the tough sometimes need outside help. Couples counseling isn’t a last-ditch effort to save a broken partnership. It’s a healthy form of relationship upkeep. Keep reading for seven totally normal signs you need couples therapy, and find out how you and your partner can start rebuilding intimacy on your own.
1) You keep having the same fight.
Forgive and forget? It’s easier said than done. Some couples have the same fight over and over again, whether it’s about finances or broken trust. Talking to a neutral third-party might be the only way to resolve a recurring issue.
“Conflicts can be opportunities, or even blessings in disguise,” says YourTango.com expert LiYana Silver, relationship expert and coach. “Addressing a problem gives partners a chance to build a stronger, closer relationship, but it often takes an outside perspective to see that.”
2) “It’s not you, it’s me.”
Ugh. No one wants to hear, “It’s not you, it’s me.” And there’s a good reason why: It’s never just about one person. We inevitably bring our individual doubts and insecurities into our relationships. If you aren’t feeling good about the person you’ve become, it’s time to get outside help. Doing so as a couple can help you and your partner work as allies. As you take responsibility for your happiness, your partner can practice coping strategies and learn how best to support you.
3) You’re unhappy about your sex life.
It’s normal for people in long-term relationships to get in a rut, especially in the bedroom. But it’s not healthy to stay in one. “If you find yourself feeling more attracted to others or thinking about cheating, it’s time to invest time, energy, and creativity into your relationship,” says Silver. Fortunately, you and your partner have options. Even without therapy, there’s a new affordable way for couples to build intimacy…
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