Trending Topics

Are You in a ‘Make Do’ Relationship?

Photo Credit: chalwiz via flickr

New research has shown that as many as 1 in 7 people are in a relationship with someone who is not the “love of their life.”

And the study discovered that, of those, 73 percent have “made do” after missing out on true love.

As sad as it may sound, Dr. David Fraser, Scottish author of Relationship Mastery, says he is not shocked by the findings.

He said: “It doesn’t surprise me at all. Relationships can work at so many different levels and, while we have our ideal of what we would consider the love of our life, there are many other ways in which a relationship can work.

“There are also all sorts of practical considerations, which mean people stay in relationships.

“Sometimes, the bottom line for many people is something is better than nothing and while there is this idea that the grass is always greener on the other side, the fact is, it is not always the case.”

Life coach Linda Cameron of the Glasgow and Edinburgh-based company Inspire for Impact, helps people work on understanding their relationships better.

She believes that while someone might believe they are not with the love of their life, there is a chance the person might actually turn out to be “the one” if they stopped comparing them to a non-existent ideal or former partners.

She said: “I think some of those who think they’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t the love of their life might actually begin to see different qualities in that person if they stopped trying to make that person live up to an ideal.

“When people start to live in the now and appreciated what’s happening, then they can discover the person they are with actually is exactly what they are looking for.”

However, Cameron also believes there comes a time when many people will find a comfortable, safe or make-do relationship is no longer enough for them…

Read More:

Back to top