Til Last week, orgasms made the news — and not in a good way. Kim Ramsey, a 44-year-old nurse from Montclair, New Jersey, captured headlines when she revealed that due to her diagnosis of Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD), she suffers through the excruciating pain of having upwards of 100 uncontrollable orgasms a day. (Yes, seriously.) Women began commenting in droves throughout the Internet, with reactions ranging from shock and sympathy to downright confusion. It seems whereas Ramsey’s rare and unfortunate disorder puts her on one end of the spectrum, on the other end, there are still many women today, of all ages, who readily admit to “faking it” regularly because they rarely, if ever, have even a single orgasm.
“I think women have been tricked into thinking something is wrong with them when they don’t have an orgasm,” says tell-it-like-it-is psychologist Dr. Michelle Callahan, author of Ms. Typed: Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships and Find Dating Success and new “sexpert” for Durex’s In-Sync campaign. “Women also do it because they just don’t want to be looked at as the person bringing down the sexual energy.” So, what is a woman to do if she finds herself seriously deprived in the ecstasy department? We asked Dr. Michelle to weigh in on why women feel compelled to “fake it ‘til we make it” and how they can put an end to the madness.
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