The mother of two mixed-race boys says she’s shocked at some of the strange and outright rude reactions she’s received to her sons’ differing appearances.
Amy Keller of Spring, Texas said she was told her fraternal twins would be the spitting image of one another. Just days after their births, however, it was evident one son had darker skin than the other. Holden Keller took after his mother, inheriting her blond hair and blue eyes while brother Hayden resembled his African-American dad, bearing darker skin, brown eyes and dark curly hair.
“When they were born they were so little that I didn’t really notice Hayden’s skin was darker until about three days later,” Keller, a veterinary technician, told Mirror Online. “… When I realized [it], I thought it was funny because all along my doctors were convinced they were identical.”
She added her sons’ personalities are as different as their looks, describing Hayden as the “fearless daredevil” while Holden is the “shy and really cautious” one.
The 15-month-old boys, who were born prematurely in December 2016, generate a buzz everywhere they go, prompting questions about whether they’re actually brothers. While most people are amazed at her baby boys, Keller said some of the comments about their strikingly different appearances can be quite mean. For instance, Keller said she has been accused of lying about whether her sons have the same father.
“I’ve had some abuse in Facebook mom groups,” Keller explained. “I once posted a photo of the boys with the caption ‘Their features are starting to look identical,’ and then people started commenting ‘They’re not identical … How can you say they’re identical? Are they even twins?’ ”
“It does hurt me and it does get to me,” she added.
While the negative comments aren’t a big deal now because the boys are still young, Keller said she worries about when they get older and people really begin to notice their physical differences. Because the twins’ father isn’t in the picture, the mother of three also expressed worry that her darker-skinned son might struggle with being different in his largely white family.
“They have no awareness that they are any different from each other now,” Keller said. “[But] my family is Caucasian, so I do know there will come a time when I will have to have a talk with Hayden. When the time comes, I’ll just explain to him that Holden and him are brothers and nothing can change that.”
“I just hope to build the foundations of love and acceptance which will hopefully help him through any issues he has,” she added.