Little tweaks also can be tremendously helpful. That’s because simple, everyday positive behaviors add up. Don’t believe us? Give these a try and you may be surprised.
Julie Orlov, MSW, a psychotherapist and author of the book The Pathway to Love, shared five ways you can instantly improve your relationship.
1. Focus on what you love about your partner.
After spending years together and dealing with day-to-day stressors, couples can forget to focus on the positive. Relationships can easily become a litany of “you didn’t do this” or “stop doing that.”
That’s why Orlov suggested reminding yourself “what it was that made you fall in love with your spouse.” Focus on the qualities you appreciate. “And don’t forget to share those thoughts with your spouse.”
2. Touch your partner.
“When you have physical contact, it is harder to remain closed off, angry and disconnected.” Just touching your partner or giving them a hug can go a long way in connecting you as a couple, Orlov said.
3. Listen to your partner.
Take the time to listen to what’s important to your partner. According to Orlov, “if your spouse has something to say to you about their feelings, needs, reaction or wants, it behooves you to truly listen rather than respond with either your own opinion or defensiveness to what they said.”
That’s because once you put down your defenses and stop rehearsing your own responses in your head, you’ll be able to gain a clearer and deeper understanding of your partner, and your relationship.
4. Find the humor in a situation.
Humor heals. It provides us with perspective. “Laughter also releases a lot of stress, allowing more positive feelings to ensue,” Orlov said. Try to find the light side of a situation, and laugh together.
5. Get intimate…