Advice From Jada Pinkett Smith About Being a Stepmom

Jada Pinkett Smith is a woman of sacrifices and making things work.
When she decided to marry actor Will Smith 17 years ago, she knew that she’d have to accept his child, Trey Smith, from his previous marriage and have a good functional relationship with his ex-wife Sheree.
Most recently, in a Facebook post to her fans, Jada posted an open letter explaining that she knew that Will’s ex-wife and her son Trey were a part of the package deal and she doesn’t support any woman who tries to keep her man from his children of a previous marriage. She wrote:

“A Letter to a Friend:
Blended families are NEVER easy, but here’s why I don’t have a lot of sympathy for your situation because… we CHOOSE them. When I married Will, I knew Trey was part of the package…Period! If I didn’t want that…I needed to marry someone else. Then I learned if I am going to love Trey…I had to learn to love the most important person in the world to him…his mother. And the two of us may not have always LIKED each other… but we have learned to LOVE each other.
I can’t support any actions that keep a man from his children of a previous marriage. These are the situations that separate the women from the girls. Your behavior is that of an insecure child who needs to recognize her own weaknesses that MUST be strengthened to take on the task at hand. We can’t say we love our man and then come in between him and his children. THAT’S selfishness … NOT love. WOMAN UP… I’ve been there…I know. My blended family made me a giant… Taught me so much about love, commitment and it has been the biggest ego death to date. It’s time you let your blended family make you the giant you truly are.”

A few weeks back, Jada also wrote about the career sacrifices she made to devote herself to being a wife and mother. After returning home from a business trip to New York, her son Jaden left her a surprise gift with a note attached that said “Everyday is special with you”…

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