Turn on the television or read the news, and all you hear are the negatives about relationships. This celebrity is leaving that one; this person cheated with that person. If the recent studies and articles are to be believed, more and more couples are delaying divorce because of the economy, prompting hundreds of tips from reporters and bloggers on how to live with your estranged spouse.
Is anyone happy in their relationship? In a word, yes. There are many couples that are happy being together. But the headline, “thousands of couples achieve happiness,” doesn’t have the same ring as “divorce rates are climbing.”
So, how are these couples staying happy through all the normal peaks and valleys of marriage, coupled with today’s economic challenges? Are they just lucky? Is their mantra the proverbial “yes, dear” with an eye roll? Well, after surveying 500 men and women on my Facebook page, the answers and secrets are crystal clear. 5 Ways To Be Happy About Your Love Life Right Now!
1. Don’t communicate. Every therapist, counselor and relationship self-help book says the same thing, “you have to communicate.” Merriam Webster defines “communication” as “the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings.” Sorry, but this definition of communication is largely misunderstood because, to many people, it means talking to your spouse so that he/she knows you are right.
In successful, happy relationships, people listen and empathize. They don’t necessarily agree, but they do make the effort to really hear the information, and then see it from their significant other’s point of view.
2. Go to bed angry sometimes. The golden rule is to never go to bed angry. But, sometimes things cannot be worked out without a brief break. You both might need time to consider things, evaluate…
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