Have you settled for companionship in your would-be romantic relationship? Companionship happens when you exist in the same home but spend very little time together, and neither of you is particularly satisfied. Take the stereotypical man-watching-football-while-his-wife-cleans-the-house scenario. She resents that he gets to relax while she slaves to keep the home clean. She complains about [...]
Is Your Mate The Right One For You?
February 1, 2013 | Posted by
Elliott Katz was stunned to find himself in the middle of a divorce after two kids and 10 years of marriage. The Torontonian, a policy analyst for the Ottawa government, blamed his wife. “She just didn’t appreciate all I was doing to make her happy.” He fed the babies, and he changed their diapers. He gave them their baths, he [...]
The Two Realities of One Relationship
January 31, 2013 | Posted by
No matter who you marry, there’s one thing you can count on. Unless you’re able to create an opposite-sex clone of yourself to walk down the aisle, the person you wed will bring with them a reality that at times will feel alien— even unacceptable — to you. Inevitably, your reaction will include disappointment, frustration, [...]
Forget The Fiscal Cliff, Couples Must Learn to Avoid The Marital Cliff
January 13, 2013 | Posted by
How does this happen? When we marry we want to believe that we have found our soul mate, someone who is very much like us. In love, we dimly perceive our differences and, if we do notice them, we tend to minimize or ignore them. As time marches on, the inevitable cracks begin to show [...]
Women Hold The Keys to Real Intimacy But Often Leave Them Unused
January 3, 2013 | Posted by
I teach intimacy skills, but not to couples and not to men. I only teach them to women because we are the ones who have the power to make our relationships intimate. When a woman learns intimacy skills, her relationship becomes passionate and peaceful in about two weeks. Clients often say, “I feel like I [...]
Resolutions That Can Help Change Your Status from ‘Single’ to ‘Married’
January 1, 2013 | Posted by
Recently, I made a resolution to break up with someone. Well, we weren’t technically together. He said we were dating, but our relationship didn’t exactly fit the definition. He was friendly, funny and fine, but beyond that, I didn’t think we had much in common. And for the first time, I lowered my expectations to [...]
Nagging: One Major Relationship-Killer Habit to Leave In the Old Year
December 30, 2012 | Posted by
Ken Mac Dougall bit into the sandwich his wife had packed him for lunch and noticed something odd—a Post-it note tucked between the ham and the cheese. He pulled it out of his mouth, smoothed the crinkles and read what his wife had written: “Be in aisle 10 of Home Depot tonight at 6 p.m.” [...]
This Holiday Season Give Your Spouse the Gift of Great Sex
December 12, 2012 | Posted by
Great Sex. It’s something every married couple wants. As a solution, maybe you’ve thought about spicing up your sex life to make the Holidays extra special. Maybe you want to start off the new year with a bedroom bang. That’s great! Making sex memorable, romantic and fun is a fine idea but it’s important to [...]
Obsolete? Attitudes Toward Marriage Have Shifted Dramatically
November 27, 2012 | Posted by
Our cultural attitudes about marriage, living together without getting married and having children have been shifting dramatically. Look at these rather amazing findings about the world we are now living in. As recently reported in the New York Times by David Brooks, in 1957, 57 percent of those surveyed said that they believed adults were [...]
New Study: Most Women Don’t Marry Their ‘Best’ Sex Partner
November 25, 2012 | Posted by
This goes against the premise of every single romance novel, but you’re not going to marry the best sex of your life. At least, not if you’re like most women. According to a recent study by iVillage, less than half of wedded women married the person who was the best sex of their lives (52 [...]
