If you want to save your marriage, for the love of God, don’t go to marriage counseling. Eighteen years ago my marriage was in tatters. My husband and I went to counseling for years thinking there was something wrong with us, but we finally realized that the counseling was the problem. That set me on [...]
When Does a Marriage Require Professional Help?
August 27, 2012 | Posted by
There’s no question — marriage can be challenging. Maybe marriage counseling should be something you register for when you tie the knot. Much like a new set of dishes that gets scratched from constant use, relationships can also show wear and tear over the years. So how do you know if your marriage has hit [...]
The Importance of Sexual Intimacy, Not Just Sex, in a Marriage
August 25, 2012 | Posted by
As a clinical sexologist and relationship coach I counsel couples in marriage who are having difficulty with having a fulfilling sex life. Most of my clients will have invested years in marriage counseling already or come to the point in the marriage where they know a change must be made. When couples allow their sex [...]
How To Protect Yourself From An Affair
July 13, 2012 | Posted by
I was recently taking a couple through the premarital workbook “Creating Possibilities in Marriage.” As the couple worked through their family history and began doing the exercise on their family tree, it immediately dawned on the wife that 70 percent of her relatives were divorced. Then the husband remarked, with an astonished look on his [...]
Are We Still Willing to Put in the Work Needed for Long-Lasting Relationships?
June 11, 2012 | Posted by
What makes a good marriage?” I once posed this question to a 99 year old man with some experience in this matter. He replied, “Hard work. We should know. Harriet and I have been working at it for over seventy-five years.” He went on to describe some despairing periods when he wanted to walk out [...]
