As far as stereotypes go, a wandering eye and the urge to jump into bed with multiple partners seems to be built into a man’s DNA, but when it comes to cheating, the sexes are created more equally than we think. (Cough, Kristen Stewart, cough.) Renee Lee, a relationship expert with a masters in psychology, [...]
What Makes a Married Woman Cheat?
December 4, 2012 | Posted by
We have once again been faced with a high profile marriage scandal. This time the lovers included the CIA director, a married and much decorated military officer and his biographer, a married women, herself an Army Reserve intelligence officer. What is predictable is the media focus on the man. In this case the articles addressed [...]
Why Men with Power Cheat
November 24, 2012 | Posted by
Both men and women cheat — regardless of race, age or stature, according to Terri Orbuch, author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. In fact, about 32 percent of married men and 20 percent of married women report being unfaithful, she said. But when powerful men — most [...]
Couples Counselor On Why People Cheat
October 22, 2012 | Posted by
In her 30 years of counseling couples, Mira Kirshenbaum has discerned 17 reasons that people have extramarital affairs. In a near majority of couples, one partner will cheat on the other at some point. In her new book, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships (St. Martin’s), Kirshenbaum explains [...]
6 Warning Signs That You Might be Willing to Cheat
August 14, 2012 | Posted by
If having an affair is the last thing you want to do, you better heed these six warnings signs. They indicate that you are heading down a slippery slope. One more step could be too late to prevent a disaster. 1. A call from an old friend. A phone call from an old flame? How [...]
Regrets: Learn From Others Before Rushing Off to Greener Grass
July 25, 2012 | Posted by
“Regrets. I’ve had a few,” Frank Sinatra crooned in his famous song. But how often do people regret their divorces? Even thrice-married Donald Trump once revealed to a former employee that he wished he didn’t detonate his 15-year marriage to Ivana Trump by having an affair with — and later marrying — Marla Maples. According [...]
When is Cheating Justifiable?
July 6, 2012 | Posted by
Many people offer theories explaining why adultery happens and what factors make it more likely. Some argue that monogamy is unnatural, therefore cheating should not be surprising. But theories can’t tell us whether adultery is right or wrong, because such judgments do not depend on explanations. Scholars can explain why it can be hard to [...]
All Affairs are Not Created Equal: Psychologist says There are 6 Different Types of Cheating
June 7, 2012 | Posted by
With Tiger Woods back in the game after his “bad decisions” admission on ESPN, I couldn’t help but recall George (not his real name), who had consulted me about how to deal with his new affair. Visions of Woods, Jessie James, Mark Sanford, John Edwards and others came to mind — along with the similar [...]
