Halle Berry recently ended her relationship with British producer Alex Da Kid and she’s indicated she won’t have another boyfriend again. The “Extant” actress posted an Instagram story Wednesday, Dec. 13 that she is “done with love” and an expert is explaining why that could be the case.
Berry’s Instagram post included the anti-fairy tale caption along with a rope in the shape of a heart but the actress likely wasn’t broken up by it. She indicated she was staying strong with a few arm-flexing emoji.
The post followed an UsWeekly report that same day that her relationship with Alex Da Kid had fizzled after a few months. Berry has had four rocky relationships, including three failed marriages.
But why would she give up on love now? Dr. Aaron Turpeau, an Atlanta certified licensed professional counselor described as America’s Black Love Doctor, explains.
“People give up on love altogether because they believe that the ideal of romantic love is not realistic,” he told Atlanta Black Star. “Or that the romantic love ideal is not possible for them in their situation. They conclude, therefore, that to pursue love [in] relationships would be a futile endeavor — at least for them. Maybe it is possible for others, but not for them. Or some may conclude that it is not a realistic ideal for anyone.”
And Berry isn’t alone in her aversion to commitment. The Instagram post comes on the heels of Chris Brown’s indication that he may only have one more relationship left in him. He said as much in a Nov. 25 Instagram post. But two days later, it seemed he changed his mind as he was pictured with singer Agnez Mo.
Nick Cannon made a similar vow last year, saying that after his divorce from Mariah Carey, he doubted he’d ever marry again.
“I highly doubt it,” he told DuJour Magazine. “How do I say this the right way … Not to say that I was bogged down [in my marriage] because I wasn’t by any means, but I like being able to make my own decisions and come and go as I please.”
So what can the broken-hearted do to get over a failed relationship? Turpeau says it’s important not to give up on finding the right one.
“Understand the old saying that ‘there are plenty of fish in the sea’ is true,” he said. “It may not seem like it when you are grieving your break up, but there are so many people that you could be in a fulfilling relationship with. … You just need to learn how to pick the right person and how to love the right way.”
“Love relationships are like addictions,” he continued. “When they end you will go through withdrawal but if you stay encouraged you will love again. All relationships come to an end but you do not need to give up on love. Remember the old saying ‘It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.'”